I think it's good to get people's sexualities out in the open before the relationship even begins. Like, I'm a bottom and I simply don't fuck women (in a conventional sense). Gay guys are more understanding. It's kind of a big deal and I wouldn't want to lead with false assumptions.
lazyneet
joined 1 year ago
Where indeed? I'm pansexual, currently leaning more gay, nb-presenting male with a thin frame. If I had no standards, I could probably find some bear in the area. Scruff is another gay app, and I managed to meet someone through that who looks like my type but isn't much of a top and didn't want to meet again. I'm also on a BDSM-focused gay site called Recon, where I've been engaged in a multi-month ongoing conversation with this shy pantyhose fetishist who eventually wants to try things. I avoid Grindr because I'm not looking for disposable experiences.
I put my sexual preferences in my dating profiles and I make sure I'm as direct as the setting allows. I can't understand people who are coy about their sexuality. Mismatching sexuality is absolutely a dealbreaker. I recently spent an entire day with a guy who suddenly decided he wasn't gay. Could have saved me the trouble.