the empty walls with only the few things i needed was my default. then i was married to a trash goblin for awhile. so now i've got artwork up and plants everywhere. but every single thing has a place it belongs and every surface is clear. completely empty spaces feel weird now but it cant be chaos piles ever again.
no thank you. being a decent person isnt transactional. not bartering over which groups someone can still treat like shit for fun. and being the kind of obsessive who tracks every local beatle or makes a youtube series about obscure shit. isnt the same thing as being someone who need to knock others down to feel strong.
based on the smell and allergic reaction i just had. im guessing its strawberry mint i was gifted that jumped pots before i could murder it all last summer.
halfway through responding i talked myself out of my own opinion on this. language changes and i think "on the spectrum" is coming to the end of it's usefulness. it was helpful for a time but now i only use it at work in the context of "i'm just grasping for language that will make you understand how to communicate with me".
On the spectrum is a helpful middle ground when exploring the topic though. And it was a very helpful middle ground when every discussion of autism seemed to devolve into clinical diagnosis vs awareness that the medical system in most countries is a dumpster fire. getting my son diagnosed took very little effort. when i looked into it for myself 6 yrs ago, the clinician was helpfully blunt with "look unless you need accomodations dont put yourself through this yet. theres one person in this state who can diagnose in adults and it's a 2 yr wait list to start the 1 yr $1200 out of pocket process".
a friend got her offical diagnosis about 6 months ago and the process has by her description, improved and shortened significantly. so i may explore that again. at this point outside work i just use autist/autism, but at work i still use spectrum. I do agree the language is aging out of broad usefullness, but i don't believe it's something i'll be bothered by for a long while still. i get your frustration with it. I think we're in that be kind and let people use the language they're comfortable with period for the spectrum. it may die off or it may become elder millenials term for ourselves as aspie has for some genxers who grew up before the spectrum entered the dms5.
good start this year. got my peppers and slower flowers started under the growlights. seeded another section of the yard with tall grass and native flowers. and im adding my first bee hive this summer, ordered a nuc from a local farm that breeds for harsh winters. should be a good year if the weather would stop toying with my heart.
the artist's website (or actual indy label), bandcamp then piracy in that order for me. if i can pay the artist, i'll pay the artist. then it goes on my jellyfin server. bandcamp and the brooklynvegan have had some great lists. my kid has recently discovered music is more than background noise in video games and thinks vinyl is cool though. he's hooked hard on rise aginst so i've had to add the local record shop then ebay into the mix. my bank account isnt happy and i will likely buy badtimerecords entire vinyl catalog for myself now. dont let your kids get into vinyl folks its a fucking trap!