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Dude, thank you so freaking much! Looks awesome!

Great Couses are awesome too, Tools of Thinking dude has a ridiculously hypnotic voice

I was sort of getting at that. The tricky part is people will almost never treat you better than 1. You treat and present yourself and 2. How you assert you are to be treated by them (that order is descending in terms of importance). Few people will treat you better than you treat yourself in a way and it sort of makes sense given our evolution and development of social groups.

You can start small tho. Try to not say sorry for anything thats not an actual sorry-worthy accident or mistake for a day. Thats it.

Check your posture by watching a youtube video and near a mirror if you can. You wanna stand tall, shoulders back, head and eyes level i think, make sure you keep your hips/torso level too, a lot of people do that silly thing where they stand at a weird angle jutting out the abdomen so they look taller or skinnier or something but its not great for your body or how you come across. Make sure to bath or shower at least once a day, twice if you can get away with it right before bedtime so it helps you get to and better sleep

When you are clean, good posture, onlynsaying sorry when its genuinely reasonable and limiting it otherwise, working on feeling you deserve and command the space you need to accomodate your presence and contribution, it will be easier for everyone and yourself to have respect and uphold your dignity without you even needing to say a word

Its just expected and commanded in a non-threatening but palpable way

Is there any way you can get your son involved so you can also pass that down to him and give him that extra head start on valuing working out and taking care of himself like you're modelling for him currently?

Do you think it might be simpler for them to look for the trailheads as an easier introduction to IFS?

Trailheads honestly seem to me to be the simplest path to getting into IFS and its such a practical, simple practice...

Thats what almost immediatey clicked for me, very commonsense but also not necessarily immediately intuitive if you were trying to work it out from scratch

Too late! Its locked in

Why do Disney princess tales fuck up people's marriages in terms of the expectations they set against whatbis actually realistic

I dont think this set of facts has ever aligned in the history of...forever

I feel like so much romantic and popular music is quite borderline or unhealthy.

Thats sort of disingenuous and also inauthentic tho. Its really not helping anyone when you affirm non-existsnt grievances

What would happen if you just... didnt and just did your business? Why are the apologies needed?

Bad habit. How come they dont apologize equally to you?