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how do I stop being a sucker for alcoholic stuff on sale? (linux.community)

submitted 1 week ago by vestmoria@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/2749844

I don't know if I'm a low key alcoholic or so cheap because in my past I was homeless and dependent on the charity of (sometimes) strangers and feel I only "deserve" alcohol when it's on sale.

I know binge drinking is stupid, I know if I drink more than a pint of beer without food my stomach feels bad and I feel dizzy, but each time I find beer on sale I buy at least a 6 pack (6 pints). I then promise myself to drink it within several days, not all within 3 days, but something snaps in me each time I open the fridge and see all that beer. I sometimes drink 2 pints a day till I have no more beer.

The only thing stopping me from buying beer every day is the price: if beer is not on sale, I don't buy it.

Beer is the only alcoholic drink I buy, I cannot tolerate anything else.

There are much healthier alternatives there, like tea, milk or juicy fruits, but my brain still associates beer with a good time, which is very ironic, because now, after drinking almost a pint, I have a headache. It doesn't even taste as good as I thought it would.

Another thing that stops me from drinking more is reading about other alcoholics, their regrets and health issues, but my brain still "wants" the beer.

To be even more ironic, I usually run 2 miles and do some stretching and yoga before going to work, but yesterday and today I was so tired I skipped this routine and started drinking.

Am I a high functioning alcoholic?

How do I stop being so fixated on alcohol on sale?

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[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl -1 points 1 week ago (3 children)

A couple beers a day isn’t a big deal buddy. Don’t stress too much about that.

[–] Skua@kbin.earth 6 points 1 week ago

On the one hand, the quantity probably isn't significantly dangerous. On the other, OPs mindset seems to be. If they cannot control their drinking then that's a problem, regardless of how much they actually end up drinking

[–] helix@feddit.org 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Please don't promote alcoholism. A couple beers a day is alcoholism.

[–] golden_zealot@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Depends on whose definition it is.

Some define alcoholism as a dependence on the substance alone, others define it as a continued use of the substance despite it causing problems for the individual, other definitions require that the user display signs of physical dependency/withdrawal syndrome when no longer using the substance.

Anecdotally, in my experience usually people only begin referring to someone as an alcoholic when they become physically dependent and experience withdrawals when stopping use.

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 1 points 1 week ago

Dude shut up. I’m not promoting alcoholism.

[–] poppichew@piefed.social 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I actually know someone who feels this way and I think it's really to each their own. I think you can be an alcoholic and still meter your drinking in a way that you can be functional. I also think that there are people who have absolutely zero control over their drinking habits and it's actually quite destructive for them to think like this. It really seems to come down to the individual, although I think most addiction revolves around impulse control issues (er, among other things). Which means you could be playing with fire keeping a lax mindset. Most people who have felt the depths of addiction who want to be in recovery (versus active addiction) tend to keep things as sober as possible because of it. I personally agree, that it only takes a little of a "good thing" to turn into a bad thing. I really do know people who can functionally indulge from time to time and not have much issue although in the past they were absolutely monsters.

I've also known a person who drank themselves to death (literally), an addict from a young age. Another who ran their *life into the ground and ended up homeless and smashed by a semi. So I always keep these things in mind.