Oh yeah confidence by physical appearance, the best kind of confidence... Let's hook up him in modern society, maybe we should teach him that there exist plastic surgery too...

Confidence and being humble starts when you accept yourself aa you are and you value that. The hyper fixation of the current state of society of creating gym bros is the opposite.

The only thing about judo is the Zen part, that most of the centers don't teach. Because they are hyper fixated on creating gym bros.

Someone that bases his confidences on what he does is not confidence. Confidence is a self appreciation and it does not depend on what you do.

Society is fucked up if the tip for helping young boy to be confident is to send them all to do martial arts. And I'm especially talking about western martial arts that deviate so much from the original meaning that they have in China or Japan.

[–] dermanus@lemmy.ca 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Tell me you've never been to a judo class without telling me you've never been to a judo class.

[–] mariusafa@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 4 days ago

I've been to judo class. All we did was cardio to the limit most of the time and 10 min of practicing movements. It looked like we were training for an ironman.

Maybe your place is different. My experience is that most martial arts train for self defense and not for self body control.