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well, im actually dont know. I never had a problem talking with males, most of them had some kind of interest we shared, and it was pretty easy to go with converstation, with girls, not so much, most of girls i talked with didnt have same interests or anything i could talk about. In my eyes its easier with boys, but its just me
What are your interests? If you already have interests that's a great start. It might be difficult in your area to find women who like the same shit as you, but there will be some. And if you're going out only trying to talk to 'ugly women' as you said, they will get the vibe that you think they're ugly and not wanna talk to you. Every women can just be a friend the same way you have make friends. Start by trying to increase your friend group with both genders and I'm sure you'll find someone you're interested in and who's interested in you.
Well, i have a degree in computer science, i like a lot stuff about pc, coding. I also like art in general, i even draw sometimes and want to get better at it.
Go to an art group. If you're in a city there's probably several. Stuff like drawing in the park is downright normie of a hobby. You'll get better and find yourself chatting with people who share an interest
im not that skilled for an art group, maybe sometime in the future, but right now my drawings are childish and its kinda cringe in a way
Kill the cop in your head dude. People sketching in the park aren't there because they're good at sketching, they're there because the park is lovely, sketching is fun, and it's nice to combine those with other people who like them
I assure you there are plenty of women out there that are into that kind of thing.
But my advice? Focus on the getting better at drawing bit. Hobbies are attractive. Don't forget that. Work on yourself first.
Yeah, but how to find that kind of women? Most of women i tried to approach are into stuff that i dont like. Finding internet groups that like same stuff? I dunno, isnt that creepy when random dude trying to get acquainted through messaging? A lot of female artist i find are already taken or married. Going to some conventions? Im not sure im ready for that kind of stuff as an introvert
That's the hard bit. That's why I emphasize working on yourself and hobbies first. The confidence that comes with that will help.
Don't make the goal finding a partner. Instead be someone people want to be around. If men are easier to talk to try to work yourself up to finding ways to be around more of them and more often.
Some of them will know women. Putting yourself around more will increase the chances of finding yourself around a women that you can find yourself talking to.
All of this is easier said than done but it can be done.