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I think there's this narrative sometimes that being unpretty makes you invisible, which is good because that keeps more creepy men away.
I'm going to respond to that from personal experience by saying being unattractive didn't prevent men from doing things I didn't consent to in my childhood and teen years. It doesn't stop drunk guys from saying creepy things to me in bars, and it didn't stop the unwanted hookup requests from people who see me as desparate or an easy target due to my looks. I think predators and pickup artists don't differentiate looks. They see people they think they can easily manipulate and choose those people.
It does seem like pretty women get too much male attention, occasionally positive but mostly negative, and unattrative women sometimes exclusively get the creeps with ulterior motives.