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Don't bother. My advice is to examine the vibe of the Lemmy Community you are in, and try to fit in.
Be sycopantic, speak only within the bounds of what a typical member asks, do NOT stick out in any way.
As a former /r Collapse member said, you don't know how evil people really are, follow the gray man principle when interacting with society.
The entire point of social media is the social aspect. Keep to linkedin, reddit and similar trash heaps if all you want is to be a part of a hivemind.
Dude, you will just get banned if you say anything really controversial. I take and am grateful for what I get.
It's the same rules at work and in public. People are quite self-righteous, and their minds can seldom be changed.
You want to minimize the risk to yourself, while still having access to the resources and community when you need them the most.
Pay attention to the format others use. You can ask unique questions, so long as you are polite and professional. Don't ask anything NSFW, rude, deragotory, or political. Especially pay attention to mod and admin leanings. They will ban you, whether you are right or wrong.
Keep negative vents sparse, you generally want to be positive outside of doomer communities. People won't take you seriously if you are always negative.
This is the internet survival guide, as far as I can remember.
You make valid points, but I still disagree with the "dont stick your head out" opinion you originally espoused.
I also disagree that social media, especially mostly anonymous social media like lemmy, is anything like work or in public. Also hard disagree on "Keeping your head down to still have access to the resources of the community when you need them the most" part - there is no social currency here, no reputation built. We didnt import the social scoring system reddit had (karma) so nobody here has any more or less access to 'community resources' than anyone else.
Also, I don't think anyone gives a shit if they get banned. Beauty of the fediverse and having no reputation - you just make another account on another instance.
I haven't really found myself disagreeing much on lemmy, so do take all this with a grain of salt. Maybe if I did, then I would have a different view.
Fair enough.