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There are more women with incel beliefs than men and nobody cares/labels them (lemm.ee)

submitted 2 years ago by AbsoluteChicagoDog@lemm.ee to c/unpopularopinion@lemmy.world

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I have so many friends who would 100% be labeled as an incel if they were men. They hold men to impossibly high standards while meeting none of those standards themselves.

For example, women living with parents while expecting men to have their own place, women who are obese but are only interested in fit men, working part time while expecting a man who has a career, refusing to drive and expecting men to chauffeur them around, expecting men to have a variety of friends and interests while doing nothing but watching TV all day, etc.

The worst part is, calling out this inequality will 100% get any man labeled as an incel. We're expected to either deal with it or be alone forever.

This is NOT to undermine the very real issues women have to deal with, for example the loss of bodily autonomy in the US. But this is still an issue worth discussing and nobody is talking about it.

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[–] FoundTheVegan@kbin.social 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Well, A) You already said this is based on people you know....

I have so many friends who would 100% be labeled as an incel if they were men

And B) If not that, then what are they based on? What other people say? Because you need to consider those biases when you take those opinions as your own. Label yourself however you like, but the thoughts in your post was that of an incel. Blame it on others if you wish, but you were the one who posted it. You are the one repeating it. You are the one saying and thinking these things.

You didn't respond to anything I was saying, just labeled it as wrong. Feels more like a defense mechanism than actual engagement. You are the one who brought these ideas here today. You're right that I don't know you, but what metric am I supposed to understand your ideas other than engage with the things you choose to write/say?