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[–] LuckingFurker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 42 points 3 days ago (1 children)

"No don't slap me, I'll cum"

[–] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 10 points 3 days ago

Did you mean “don’t slap me just once?”

[–] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 27 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I wish platonic cuddling between men was more acceptable, because I am also super touch starved.

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 17 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 12 points 3 days ago

That's the idea :D

[–] FoxyGrandpa@lemmy.world 30 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Of I had the balls to hire a prostitute, I would be the guy who spends the time being held and get forehead kisses

[–] Sparky@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 3 days ago (1 children)

"nah I don't want to fuck. All I want is someone supportive"

[–] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 13 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

From quick internet research that may be slightly more expensive than a session with therapist.

[–] Neptr@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 3 days ago

Will a therapist cuddle with you? I think not.

[–] match@pawb.social 11 points 3 days ago

I'll do it for free :3

[–] 000999@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 3 days ago

I believe in you bro, you got this

[–] davidagain@lemmy.world 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I hug my friends whenever we meet or part. You other folks should get doing this.

[–] isVeryLoud@lemmy.ca 7 points 3 days ago

Heck yeah, friend hugs are awesome

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 days ago

Aw thank you<3

It really means a lot to me!

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

heheh u shall not stay untouched for long !

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 3 days ago