If I have a $10 bill in my wallet, I would give it to literally anybody who asked me.
this post was submitted on 23 Apr 2025
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That explains why you never have any money to pay me back, man.
Can I have a $10 bill?
Sure... stop by, I'll give it to you!
Awesome! I'll buy plane tickets and let you know when I depart.
Saying 'no questions asked' is weird saying in most situations.
Honestly if anyone I'm in good terms with came to me and was like 'can I have 10$? ' I would just give it to them and resume my things cause I probably don't even want to know or care what they'll do with it.
I mean, whats the worst you could do with 10$
I had an addict friend hit me up for $10 and I didnβt know he relapsed and he died from the bad heroin he bought with that $10.
Point being, thatβs prob the worst you can do with $10.
I stand corrected. So sorry to hear that and for your loss. I'll be more thoughtful in the future
Is fine. Was not on me, and he was destined for it anyway. No need to βbe more thoughtfulβ. This is how us humans learn such wild things, from each others stories. Iβm always happy to share the tale.
It def helps reality check in this case! Oof!
Ten? Anyone, if I have it on me. I don't, usually but have done that for random panhandlers, instead of spare change.
100? That's harder. Any friend or relative who hasn't asked me for money, again, if I have it and they don't.
1000? No. That is "questions asked" territory for anyone.
Story time... A guy I used to work with hit me up out of the blue to ask if I could venmo him $20 and he'd venmo it right back. I, knew this proposition was suspect. I told him he could just have $20 if he needed it. I asked around, and apparently he'd been hard into drugs and asked a similar thing to a lot of other people. He asked if the company I worked for was hiring a few weeks later. "Sorry bro, hiring freeze." (There was no hiring freeze). I also never sent him another dime.
michael jackson
He he
i did not read the title correctly
Nobody. What on earth could you possibly need money for without giving some sort of explanation
I'm in England and have no dollars, so the answer is 'none'.
Alright here's a more local analogue: how many chavs would you offer a ciggy to if they approached you in your council flat? 1? 10? 100,000?
If one of them is named Kev and knew your mate's sister, and all but one were wearing Adidas or Nike, would that double or halve your generosity?
I used to be able to count it down to the millisecond exactly when a strange chav would ask me for a cigarette.
"In 3...2...1..." "oi mate you got a spare fag I can borrow"
Never understood that phrasing. A spare? As in a cigarette I carry but don't need/don't plan to use? And borrow? As in youre going to take it and bring it back to me later?
I know I'm being too literal but damn it so stupid
Edit thanks for the good chuckle btw
i feel like it's a euphemism intended to make the transaction feel less costly for the person giving
the same way it's easier to say "they're gone" than "they're dead" when you're grieving, even though they mean the same thing given the context.
Same. I wasn't even over 18 at the time, and they'd still ask
I don't smoke.
So none
Okay, what about you're at the local chicken shop, and a wean comes in asking if you'll buy him some chips and a coke. You originally say no, but then three of his schoolmates come in too and one of them looks like he's holding a sharpened ruler. How many chips do you buy assuming you want to leave the shop?
I don't eat meat. So I wouldn't go to a chicken shop. So none.
Fine, imagine this: you're at the local Nando's getting their veggie supreme for your girl Suze, when a man in a tracksuit comes at you saying that it's his order and that he'll brap you up if you say different. You notice that his hand is down the front of his trousers, and if he's hiding anything there it's either small or non-lethal. Suze is looking at you. What do you do?
I only visit the kebabi.
So none.
Okay you're at the local kebab shop, and he asks you whether you want it german-wrap style or in a pitta bread, but not once does he call you Boss during the exchange.
Do you take the kebab without leaving, or do you report him to the police for failure of duty?
Did he add a massive chili on the kebab?
He did, yes, juiciest motherfucker you ever ate
I'd hand him 10 quid, no questions asked
As I don't shop at a butcher, my answer is 'none' (/s)
You can find me at the supermarket though
Happy to say there are no chavs round my way, nor council flats, so none.
Okay, imagine you're down at the pub, and that actor from GoT comes in surrounded by a horde of screaming girls. He clearly just wants a drink and to be left alone, but can't shake off the fans. The bar stool next to you is free, and you have an expression of utter repulsion on your face to ward off anyone. He's eyeing the seat and your face with desperation. Do you let him sit with you, or do you tell him to piss off to another pub?
I'm just a customer so he can sit there if he likes. Unless we're talking Joffrey as I couldn't deal with his horrid little face.
I am also in England.
And whilst I would have no dollars to give, I would definitely have questions in response to such a request
In a "no time to explain" situation: most of my friends and family
If they actively refuse to explain: maybe my 2-3 closest people whom I trust they have a good reason for that kind of secrecy.
Explaining what's going on is the price you pay for free money.
I don't think this is always the case. I was asked by a woman that I was training at work if she could borrow $20 a few months ago and this was my initial response "what for?" Then my brain kicked in and I recognized that it could be for something innocuous like lunch or something else like tampons or other personal items and that it wasn't any of my business, so I told her "sorry that seemed kind of personal" and offered it to her.
If someone asked me for a more significant amount of money, I'd definitely want to know what for, but a one-time request for $20 is fairly inconsequential to me if it's someone I know.
Same for me
If I've got it, I'd lend my long time best friends up to β¬1000 without question. I would not really expect them to pay it back. I trust that if or when they can they will. If they can't, they can't. People that are not my besties? No.
Most of my adult friends or business acquaintances, I'd just give it to them.. if asked in person.
Only once, the second time we will have a discussion about what's going on.
I don't think I give anything without any questions to strangers.
If we are talking friends then probably like 5 until I start wondering why they all need 10 dollars suddenly
Well do you mean random stranger people or people in my knowledge sphere?
The way it's worded. It's both
Zero.
If someone I know asks me for money, I'm at least asking them "what's up? Everything ok?" before giving them money.
Then after that, still probably zero because I don't have any cash in my wallet atm. So hopefully I can help in some other way, give them a lift somewhere, cover a meal, something.
$10 without question, probably 3 or 4 but they make about the same annually as I do and we constantly pay each other back for meals or group purchases.
Over $20 I'd definitely ask why at the very least.
Three but three specific people.
I have a handful of friends I've lent around a grand to before, one considerably more than that. With a repayment plan set up, which was followed, but I don't really know or care what it was used for. Avoiding high interest rates on credit cards I assume.
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