Because despite how my mother treated me. I was only a child, I didn't deserve that. I deserved love, kindness and respect and I still do. Now I'm just learning how to accept it cause it's still weird when people are nice to me. But like a good weird.
this post was submitted on 17 May 2025
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I wasn't buying myself jewelry because of something someone said to me once.
There was a blowout sale a few weeks ago at a department store that was going out of business. I couldn't say no to 70% off so I bought myself some damn jewelry.
Now I just need to convince myself I deserve to wear it. Baby steps.
Writing this out made me think about how the things people say to us can really become our own inner dialog about ourselves.
I have a long inseam and yet one of my exes told me I have "stubby legs" and that's all I see when I look in the mirror. That was also when I was in the best shape of my life. Good grief, what an asshole. Good riddance!
Absolutely with you on that, one of my exes told me that flirting while doing my favourite sociable hobby would be creepy and spoil it for other people ... I took that on board for some reason, even though we had met by her flirting with me doing that same hobby.
Long story short - wear your jewelry, I bet it looks awesome :-)
Thank you 🥹
If I try to answer that, steam comes out of my ears and I get nowhere. So I imagine the question is "why does a friend deserve good things", and that leads me to think anyone inherently deserves good things, and from there I remind myself that I am included in "anyone" too! 😊
Oooh I like that!! Yessss!! ❤️
I'm in my 40s, I've scrimped and saved to be able to buy a house and kit it out. I've denied myself a lot to get where I am, so I deserve to treat myself now I can.
I've worked REALLY hard in the past, doing 2 jobs and doing hard jobs like chambermaiding. It's ok to be nice to myself.
Everyone deserves to treat themselves! I deserve the same kindness I'd show other people.
I'm in my 40s, it's ok to slow down and do less. Slowing down is a treat I deserve!
absolutely! You have worked really hard and more than deserve to treat yourself 💖
I got up at 4.30 this morning to do an extra shift for work ... the money is good, but I'm now shattered. So, I had some chocolate cake.
I'm going to walk the dogs now to balance that out, lol
Oh lord that's early well done for getting up at that time
Thank you :-)