Whatever-whatever. I don't have any strict age limit, if you care to make your case I'll listen. I'm not that busy.
That being said I do have the most in common with women in their 30s, being in my 30s myself
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In theory maybe 10 years in either direction (I'm old) but in practice I've only had long term relationships with guys within a couple years of my age.
Lovers between times, for whatever reason I always ended up with younger guys, that seemed to be the people into me, but still never more than 10 years difference.
When I was your age? One or two years at most. Absolutely not anyone much older or younger, no.
+/- 6 years.
Your current girlfriend is 57?
3 girlfriends, each one is 19.
Or something went wrong and they somehow seduced an entire nursery.
Yes, that is why stating the units of measurement is so important. 3 pcs of 19 y.o girls is good, while 19 pcs of 3 y.o. is a disaster.
First step: Get permission from my wife to date.
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Hypothetically, I don't have a limit st the high end, and the low end would be based more on the individual, but no younger than eighteen.
In reality, chances of finding someone in their twenties that would mesh well with for dating is unlikely, so thirty-ish is a more realistic lower age.
Upper end is less restricted for dating, but on a realistic level, I'm not going to enter a relationship with someone that's into their seventies just because of life span probability after that.
Luckily, I'm happily married, so I don't have to worry about that shit. But I've never cared about ages for dating, since dating is essentially "trying on" someone for a more committed relationship. It makes it worth interacting with people that are less likely to be compatible on a surface level, when going into it with the knowledge that it's probably going to peter out anyway, so the risks of it having a high price are lower.
Seriously, every relationship has difficulties. You can't predict what's going to arise over decades of being together. So limiting options by age ends up being arbitrary. While I never went looking for people far away from my age, anyone old enough and developed enough to understand what a relationship is was the determinant.
Now, on a practical level, once you're out in the work force, chances are that you'll be interacting with people from their mid-to-late twenties up to their sixties. So you aren't going to end up dating outside of that range often. To date someone you have to meet them, and communicate often enough to ask them for time outside of whatever scope you meet them in. So I never really dated outside that range at any point. But I wouldn't have rejected the possibility if it came up.
I dunno, I just don't see age gaps as a problem.
I don't really even have an age range I guess, I've never met anyone I was interested in dating.
That is a strange way to say she's 57...
But anyway! Range varies wildly with age. 6 years is something you at least ponder at age 25, but will feel like "same age" around 50.
My feeling based on what people seem to at least not care to even gossip lightly about: max 1 year at age 15. 5 years at 40. 10 years at age 60+.
Wider ranges are not problematic, but gets into at least "interesting to talk about". E.g. "They are 33 and 40! Huh! Good for them."
I'm 9 years older than my kid sister. We had an agreement, she doesn't date anyone older than me and I don't date anyone younger than her.
We both married people in that range.
Internet Creepieness Rule:
Your age / 2 + 7 is the low end limit.
This.
I strayed from this formula by 1 year once (I was 38, she was 25), and there was this strange generational gap where we just had completely different interests, we didn't get each others' references, and things fizzled pretty quickly.
Anyone else I've dated has been within this formula and we've gotten a long quite well. If they're below this number for you, or you're below this number for them, even by a little bit, it'll get weird and you'll run out of things to talk about pretty quickly.
It depends entirely on the person. Some people are intelligent, self possessed adults by the time they're 20, other people are immature shitbags well into their old age. Age is a poor metric for evaluating compatibility.
If I were to date at the age of 42, I would not date anyone below the age of 39 or above the age of 46. I would prefer only a 4-year gap in either direction, as the number 4 feels right (very vibes and personal preference based reasoning).
19, probably 17 for a while to 18 as the youngest. my fiancée is 18. oldest, 25?? 30??
edit: maybe 40 if a woman, 30 if a man just because i don’t really like middle-aged men (middle aged men, no offense 😓)
None taken. I don't like us either.
The largest age gap I’ve been involved with was about 4 years. I was 31, she was 35, and we lasted about three months. Current partner and I are about 1.5 years apart.
If I were single and interested in dating, I think the lowest age I’d be willing to go is half my age plus 7. Someone at the absolute lowest end of that range would need to check a lot of other boxes for me to be willing. Most I’d be willing to go over my age is about 10 years.
But frankly, if I were single, I’d probably just stop the online dating thing and live my best life on my own, and if I met someone who was interested cool, and if not it ain’t the end of the world.
After 30, I feel like the age range should be max 5 in either direction.
Wouldn’t want any 60 years olds creeping on 54s.
Eh, if you don't care about burying your mate way ahead of yourself, go ahead. Just feels like that 5 years keeps you within range of not having to live with that grief too long for too long on the average.
I'm 43 and if someone over 35 wants to date you it's a pedophile
I feel like +-5 is appropriate until 35. After 35 you can't get lower but you can get as higher as you want
if someone over 35 wants to date you it's a pedophile
No...words have definitions for a reason. Pedophiles go after prepubescent children, not 20 year olds who are most certainly postpubes ent. It may not be 'normal' or viewed highly by people, but it's not pedophilia.
Also it's super weird to think 35 and 105 is cool to you, but 35 and 34 if no go territory.
This pedo muddying water shit is getting tiring.
Just because you don't like something, it doesn't make it a crime and it surely as fuck does it make it a pedo issue.
We already got enough pedo yearning for the wood chipper., j dont get why people waste their energy on Leonardo DiCaprio lol