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Things can be tough, let people enjoy the things they enjoy. It brightens there day as long as there healthy.

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[–] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 177 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Good for you that you think that way :). Fuck that show though. I can't stand the unfunnyness and misogyny in it

[–] DessertStorms@kbin.social 120 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Problem is the misogyny (and racism, and queerphobia, and ableism and so on) in it doesn't stop when the show ends, it makes the people watching think it's ok, or worse - funny, normalising it. Hell, even this post is defining it as "healthy", which is so fucked up, because who exactly is that content "healthy" for?

So while I'm all for letting people enjoy what they enjoy, doing so uncritically, and/or refusing to hear when people tell you that something you enjoy is harmful to others (which misogyny, racism, queerphobia, ableism, and so on normalised in the media are) is when you go from "enjoying" to "supporting" and even "actively contributing", no longer "harmlessly" enjoying something, and I will judge you for that (edit to clarify: we all consume harmful trash entertainment, it's unavoidable, it's about acknowledging that it's harmful trash and not buying in to it, rather than insisting it's "healthy" or "harmless" despite all evidence to the contrary)

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[–] JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 85 points 2 years ago (20 children)

Watch out for the misogyny though. I haven't seen much myself to judge, but this video essay makes a pretty good case. Just be careful.

https://youtu.be/X3-hOigoxHs

[–] bastian_5@sh.itjust.works 57 points 2 years ago

Basically the entire show boils down to "they're bigots but it's funny because they are nerds who are supposedly also oppressed by society"

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[–] FARTYSHARTBLAST@kbin.social 69 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Nah, this show is terrible and if you disagree I'm not so sure you deserve happiness.

[–] Hubi@feddit.de 42 points 2 years ago
[–] Tehgingey@lemmy.ca 22 points 2 years ago (5 children)
[–] Orbituary@lemmy.world 38 points 2 years ago

Oh, stop. It's a sexist, homophobic, unfunny shit pile.

[–] bastian_5@sh.itjust.works 28 points 2 years ago

The show writers by helping to perpetuate ableism, mysogany, transphobia, etc...

[–] BeegYoshi@lemm.ee 18 points 2 years ago (1 children)
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[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 years ago

To be fair, every corporate enterprise I engage with by any terms regards me as an antagonist it must catch and parastize and engages routinely in dark patterns to trick me into its barbed snares.

A better question is, who doesn't hurt you?

It's a shorter list.

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[–] BlackNo1@lemmy.world 65 points 2 years ago (13 children)
[–] curiousaur@reddthat.com 40 points 2 years ago (4 children)

Same, it's an objectively bad show.

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[–] runeko@programming.dev 16 points 2 years ago

If hating brings you joy in these dark times...

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[–] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 56 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I wouldn't define it as safe and happy when it's full of toxic masculinity.

[–] SlikPikker@lemmy.ca 43 points 2 years ago (1 children)

It's a show for bullies. To enjoy laughing at caricatures of people people they never respected or understood.

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[–] Underwaterbob@lemm.ee 54 points 2 years ago (3 children)

I know this will sound pretentious as fuck, but as someone who got a physics degree and knows some shit, BBT drives me fucking nuts with its relentless pandering. Nerd culture isn't even nerdy anymore since being a nerd implies being some kind of outcast. When the outcasts become the majority, they're no longer outcast.

Gimme old Star Trek episodes for comfort TV any day.

[–] skarn@discuss.tchncs.de 22 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

As someone who got a physics degree and knows some shit, the first couple seasons are not too bad. The physics/math jokes are mostly fairly accurate, and those shows happened as nerd culture was getting mainstreamed. The first Avengers movie were several years away. I can't really say whether the series had a part in this mainstreaming, but at the least it was in the Zeitgeist.

I grew up in the north Italian province. Being a nerd didn't make you an outcast, but definitely an odd one.

The first couple seasons came out while I was doing my bachelor (i.e. the equivalent of undergrad) and with its caricature of some quirks I could recognize in many of my friends and colleagues, it made me feel at least acknowledged.

Then it got progressively worse as they kept looking for more and more ways to drag it on, lost those qualities I found positive, and I really gave up not too long after that.

Edit: I still need to point out that Star Trek TNG is peak comfort TV, together with maybe The West Wing or some Doctor Who.

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[–] steakmeout@aussie.zone 14 points 2 years ago (6 children)

Nerd does not imply outcast. It simply means someone who is obsessed with subject matter. Nerd culture is definitely nerdy and never won't be.

Despite the show's embarrassing cartoonish portrayal of nerds it isn't miles from reality.

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[–] tdawg@lemmy.world 43 points 2 years ago

As someone who lived with people who fetishized intelligence and used it as an excuse for toxic behavior the show is an uncomfortable reminder of that period in my life. Not just because of the characters themselves but due to the people I knew back then that would watch it

[–] callouscomic@lemm.ee 41 points 2 years ago (1 children)

The problem with BBT was making a stereotype caricature out of being a need or having aspergers, and then assholes get to call you Sheldon cause they think they're funny.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 38 points 2 years ago (2 children)

No, the problem is how misogynistic Leonard is but they portray him as an adorkable guy to be loved.

[–] KnowledgeableNip@leminal.space 19 points 2 years ago

I had no issue with this show for a while until someone pointed out how overtly perverted many of the main cast are. The laugh track and 'adorkable' aspect really throw you off, but once you see it...

Yeah, it's fucking creepy.

[–] Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world 40 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Use a picture of Larry David, a person who created TWO hilarious comedy shows, to promote a garbage sitcom? Nah.

[–] reverendsteveii@lemm.ee 37 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Me then: BBT is trash

Me now: still trash, like, it was always really bad. You're allowed to like trash. I encourage you to like trash. If you learn to love trash then the world is full of wonders. But we're not gonna pretend it's good out of some sense of politeness.

[–] Bakkoda@sh.itjust.works 15 points 2 years ago

Thank you. So many people recommend it to me because "I'm a computer guy" and I've never made it more than 5 mins. It's awful.

[–] Varyk@sh.itjust.works 33 points 2 years ago (4 children)

Boy you could have chosen any other example, hahaha.

[–] Seraph@kbin.social 17 points 2 years ago (1 children)

No it's perfect. That way if you like some other show and are worried you'll be judged about it now you can think "well at least it isn't the Big Bang Theory"

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[–] Hello_there@kbin.social 31 points 2 years ago

You know a show is trash when a character saying some jargon is somehow a laugh line

[–] hOrni@lemmy.world 28 points 2 years ago (7 children)

Then watch Parcs and Rec. Or Scrubs. Or even Friands.

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[–] gunslingerfry@lemmy.world 27 points 2 years ago (3 children)

IMO BBT is just nerd mockery dressed up like nerd humor.

[–] reverendsteveii@lemm.ee 20 points 2 years ago

It's bullying. It's people who aren't like me and my friends going "this is you. this is what you're like." It's satire without love for the thing it's satirizing.

[–] chiliedogg@lemmy.world 18 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I like to say that BBT is a stupid show about smart people, while Arrested Development was a smart show about stupid people.

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[–] RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world 21 points 2 years ago (1 children)

As long as you remember that Sheldon is a sociopath and not autistic, it's fine.

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[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 21 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

"These aren't real nerds! They make us all look dumb!"

Other than Sheldon's quirks, I've always felt like the characters were just like my friends and I and this sentiment that permeated Reddit always just felt like people who very much are like Sheldon were the ones taking the most offense at the show.

Bazinga!

[–] Bassman1805@lemmy.world 24 points 2 years ago

Later seasons really flanderized some aspects of the characters, but I always fondly remember one scene where The Gang is assembling a new TV stand for Penny's apartment and someone questions the airflow it offers. So they immediately start designing a water-cooling system for her TV.

I know people like that. I am people like that.

[–] Nerorero@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Your friends are sexist homophobes?

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 12 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

While they have done some pretty unsavory things involving Penny being the butt of many jokes that border on sexist, I can't think of a single example of homophobia from the show.

[–] Nerorero@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 years ago

That's kinda surprising. The trans episodes are usually a double whammy on trans and homophobia

[–] aStonedSanta@lemm.ee 12 points 2 years ago

This reeks of projection. You can’t dislike this thing I like if you do you are like that weird guy that is sexist on the show you don’t like!!! You sir sound like Sheldon.

[–] arefx@lemmy.ml 20 points 2 years ago

No, it's still awful.

[–] ipha@lemm.ee 18 points 2 years ago (1 children)

It's still trash, but some people like trash I guess.

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[–] BilboBargains@lemmy.world 17 points 2 years ago

'We do quirky things in a self-awareness vacuum that violate societal norms in a hilarious way that somehow doesn't result in crushing depression and isolation'

[–] skankhunt42@lemmy.ca 16 points 2 years ago

Live and let live man. I don't care what everyone does in their own time, have fun, live your life and be happy.

Where I have a problem is when someone forces me to do something. You NEED me to watch this show? No. Watch it in your own time.

[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 13 points 2 years ago (1 children)
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[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

To be fair, I have this attitude regarding those friends who drink, smoke or try to kill themselves with fentanyl.

This world drives us to terrible, monstrous copes, and better these than fascist pogroms.

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