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[–] Schlemmy@lemmy.ml 7 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I'm Belgian. I'm working with and for muncipalities and the regionale government for years now and people trend to think public servants are lady and stubborn.

I see a lot of enthousiastic, driven, hard working public servants everyday. They often are mangled between political pressure and civilian pressure. There are rotten apples in the basket, for sure, but tge vast majority of public servants work hard en mean well.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 4 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

German here, I've worked with several areas of our municipalities in the past and can only agree. A lot of public servants are overworked and really try to do a good job. Many work insane ours and you'd actually need at least three people for the job instead of one.

[–] BigBenis@lemmy.world 9 points 9 hours ago

Notice your default behaviors and take a moment to consider whether they serve you. They might, they might not. You may want to change them, you may not. Just be intentional about how you conduct yourself.

[–] Zozano@aussie.zone 14 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (2 children)

I with people noticed how much fucking space they take up.

All the fucking time I go to the shops or something and some oblivious dolt just stops walking, usually right in the middle of a fucking choke point.

I wish people would treat walking like they should treat driving; look around. Don't stop in the middle of a highway. If you need to stop, pull over. If you're walking slow, use the slow lane.

We need pedestrian traffic rules because this shit evidently is not intuitive to a lot of people.

[–] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 2 points 2 hours ago

Every day where I find the restraint not to yell "FUCK OUT THE WAY GODDAMNIT" at random people is a successful day. It's like some folks don't even wanna get wherever they're going.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 8 hours ago

The amount of people that arent aware of their space around them I have to drive around on a primarily bike lane on my commute is too high.

[–] P00ptart@lemmy.world 7 points 9 hours ago

That the collapse is incoming and ignoring that fact is exacerbating it.

[–] kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

The natural world. Watch some birds or pay attention to the sounds of insects. See how many shades of green you can pick out from the leaves in the trees. Count the seconds between a flash of lightning and the subsequent thunder. Observe a lunar eclipse.

You'll realize this place is kind of neat if you take some time to appreciate it.

[–] toad31@lemmy.cif.su 3 points 14 hours ago

100%. Being on my computer so much, I can always appreciate simply being out in nature.

Kind of ironic, because while I'm doing that everyone around me is on their phones.

[–] DarkFuture@lemmy.world 30 points 19 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Darleys_Brew@lemmy.ml 9 points 19 hours ago

Yeah, I was gonna say something about how politicians lie or how the media manipulates people. You were more succinct.

[–] chunes@lemmy.world 44 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Driving like a maniac saves you a negligible amount of time but puts others in disproportionate danger.

[–] BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca 9 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Yup, I stopped worrying about extra lane changes and pushing the speed limit when I realized that it was literally saving me 1-2 minutes at best. Not worth the risk or the hassle.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 8 points 16 hours ago

Similar but really it was the difference between driving being stressful and relaxing. I used to be so angry every time someone did something wrong but now I leave them extra space knowing humans mess up all the time and I’m leaving space so it won’t affect me

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 0 points 12 hours ago

saves you a negligible amount of time but puts others in disproportionate danger.

So... Win-win?

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[–] spykee@lemmings.world 4 points 16 hours ago

That I am available....
hmu bitches

[–] BrundleFly2077@sh.itjust.works 69 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

We’re standing on an unthinkably thin layer of viable grime coating a very small rock. We should all be constantly aware of how delicate this situation is and act accordingly, both in terms of how we treat each other and the shit we do to the rock.

[–] Boddhisatva@lemmy.world 21 points 1 day ago

Seconded. If the Earth were the size of a globe on your desk, he entire biosphere would be thinner than a piece of paper. We have filled the whole thing with our waste and toxins and we are destroying the very systems that we rely on to produce our food and air. If we do not start paying attention and taking steps, I sincerely believe that there will be a society ending global crisis in the next 2-3 decades.

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[–] cerebralhawks@lemmy.dbzer0.com 42 points 1 day ago (2 children)

That while they judge themselves by their best intentions, they invariably, and subconsciously judge others by their actions.

Once you realise most people are just trying to get through the day and most people aren't trying to make things worse for others, it's easier to forgive perceived slights, and that will make your own day better, and make you less likely to subconsciously slight someone else.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 27 points 1 day ago (2 children)

That they're never going to watch the video they're taking on their cell phone at a sporting event, or concert, or political event, or whatever.

And just live in the moment instead.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 8 hours ago

Maybe for most.
I liked going back to watch some recordings.

[–] MyDarkestTimeline01@ani.social 10 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

My family gets upset about that. I nuked my socials back on January 1st 2020. I rarely take any photos. "We want to see the memories!". Well, I'm too busy making them to remember to record them

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 10 points 22 hours ago

When I go to an event I give myself 2-3 pictures and then turn my phone off. I do generally end up printing them physically and keeping them.

[–] lgsp@feddit.it 30 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Cars.

They are everywhere, they take for themselves the majority of public space in urban areas and they are incredibly dangerous, noisy, expensive. Yet majority of people barely notice them

[–] yermaw@sh.itjust.works 30 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] lgsp@feddit.it 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Perfect representation, a classic, thanks

[–] HakunaHafada@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 10 hours ago

Definitely. This illustration's awesome

[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 15 points 23 hours ago (3 children)

The high pitch noises from so many electronic items. Just as an example HP printers have a high pitch whine from their power supplies. I literally can’t be in the room with them. If more noticed less people would buy the garbage.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 8 hours ago

My monitor in standby mode emits a slight pitch noise when the power led blinks (why. Why Samsung did you think a blinking led is a good idea for a standby mode???).

[–] junkthief@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 20 hours ago

I don’t think this is a situation of noticing or not noticing, I’m pretty sure most folks over a certain age literally cannot hear those frequencies. Then there’s the “lucky” ones of us that can still hear every little whine 🙃

[–] jewbacca117@lemmy.world 9 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

CRTs used to drive me nuts. No matter where I was in the house, I could always tell if someone was watching TV

[–] BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Had this problem at highscool, I could tell if the TV mounted in the room ceiling was on even if the screen was black. I had to ask the teachers to turn them off, they'd look at it and say "it is" and then we'd have an argument about not being able to hear anything. Eventually I would prove it by turning away, and having them randomly turn it off and on and I could tell them when it was off vs on.

Very frustrating, but I got old and now I can't hear shit

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago

I’m past the point of being able to hear most of it. We have neighbors with one of those high pitched devices to keep teens from loitering: my teens were driven crazy but I couldn’t hear at all.

But my ex is a teacher and I went to see her new classroom. The WiFi had a high pitched whine that drove me crazy yet she couldn’t hear it. I tried to get her to do something about it because I don’t see how anyone can learn with that, especially since students can hear so much better than I.

[–] MyDarkestTimeline01@ani.social 10 points 22 hours ago (3 children)

That no man is an island. And even the things you do "staying in your lane" affect those around you.

I'd also love for people to remember that breaking social contracts used to lead to duels and that's why you saw a dip in violence and breeches. But we stopped doing that and now violence and breeches of social contracts are happening more often.

And lastly I'd like all the people complaining about the biosphere in this thread to remember that they're Debbie Downers and that's why no one invites them to parties.

I'm joking about the last one. I agree with them, I just think the solution is getting off this planet as quickly as possible Oregon Trail style.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

a dip in violence and breeches

Who dipped their breeches? Cheeky bums !

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Is that another joke at the end? There is no place as habitable as earth even with where we have it at today.

[–] Smeagol666@crazypeople.online 1 points 10 hours ago

Exactly. Even as bad as we might still fuck the planet up, it'll still be easier to terraform actual Terra than fucking Mars.

[–] Saganaki@lemmy.zip 2 points 17 hours ago

…now violence and breeches of social contracts…

The latter? Yes. The former, most definitely not. Violence by all measures is at an all-time low, at least since the 1920s.

[–] RodgeGrabTheCat@sh.itjust.works 28 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I wish people would realize how their bad behavior, how their greed, hurts other people.

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[–] remon@ani.social 26 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That they are blocking the door on public transport.

[–] Olkiss@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Or those who want to get in without letting people getting off first.....

[–] MeThisGuy@feddit.nl 4 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

i try to get other ppl off first too!

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[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago (5 children)

People rarely notice anything above their eyeline. It has to be directly in front of them or slightly down to be noticed.

Look UP people! There's a whole other world there.

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[–] Strider@lemmy.world 6 points 22 hours ago

That they are not alone. Everyone is having a day just like themselves so being considerate and respectful goes a long way to making it work for everyone.

There are also people that are not like you so you might not understand the behavior of everyone but it could be that that person is struggling the same way you are (when you are) but it might look different.

[–] dan1101@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

How they are being manipulated by so many things; advertisements, the media, influencers, social media posts, the entertainment industry. The biases aren't all bad but they definitely exist.

[–] BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca 4 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

The big one for me is even worse, the way they were raised.

"I became my own person" no you fucking didn't, you still hold fundamental biases and function based on things you aren't even aware of.

Everything is programmed in, EVERYTHING.

You think eating bugs is gross? Programmed in.

You hate the number 4(parts of asia)? Programmed in.

You sing Happy Birthday at a party while serving a cake? Programmed in.

[–] Krudler@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

That when you turn off social media and stop getting your morning dose of "what should I worry about today" life becomes a lot easier.

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

That time is passing and we will all die. Are you living in earnest?

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