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Lots of great suggestions for this month's book club!

I made the determination based off of votes, which was not super helpful because the highest voted only had two votes, but still. Democracy is democracy!

Our next book shall be “Herland” by Charlotte Perkins Gilman as suggested by Okokimup.

Okokimup commented with several suggestions, but I chose this one because it is thematically relevant to last month which might be helpful for discussion, it is available for free through project Gutenberg, and because it might be more palatable with less trigger warnings than some of the other suggestions. I am still trying to balance a heavy movie with a lighter book, and this is more about a utopia, and from what I can tell does not include as much violence as the movie of the month. It is on the shorter end as far as books go, so hopefully will not be an overly huge time commitment.

Trigger warnings: allusion to attempted sexual assault, racism

I would like to include some discussion questions that are community specific and relevant to feminism, and not generic book club questions, so these will likely be questions I ask regarding every work, subject to change of course.

Some things to think about while reading:

  • Do you think this work is told from a feminist perspective? Why?
  • Do you think the authors gender or gender identity affected their choice of subject, writing style, or perspective character?
  • Does the narrators gender or gender identity affect the work? If so, how?
  • Did this work change your opinion on anything? If so, what and why?

This is not a homework assignment. You can choose to address any or none of the questions posed here, or talk about your general thoughts or whatever else. Please feel free to pose your own questions in the comments as well. These should serve as a handy springboard if needed, but not a mandatory outline for your comment.

For the October movie we will be watching Thelma & Louise as suggested by klemptor.

There seems to be a few sites where it is available for streaming, some of which are free with ads, so hopefully everyone will have at least one way they can watch.

Trigger warnings: domestic abuse, sexual violence, general violence, guns, suicide

The writer, Callie Khouri, won an academy award for best original screenplay for this movie. I'll be taking that as an invitation to pay particular attention to word choice, so I'm hoping to see some realistic Bechdel approved dialogue.

Same spiel as above: I would like to include some discussion questions that are community specific and relevant to feminism, and not generic movie club questions, so these will likely be questions I ask regarding every work, subject to change of course.

Some things to think about while watching:

  • Do you think this work is told from a feminist perspective? Why?
  • Do you think the authors gender or gender identity affected their choice of subject, writing style, or perspective character?
  • Does the narrators gender or gender identity affect the work? If so, how?
  • Did this work change your opinion on anything? If so, what and why?

This is not a homework assignment. You can choose to address any or none of the questions posed here, or talk about your general thoughts or whatever else. Please feel free to pose your own questions in the comments as well. These should serve as a handy springboard if needed, but not a mandatory outline for your comment.

Comments are spoilers territory. If you want to use spoiler tags in the comments, please do, but it is not required. If you venture into the comments please keep in mind this is a discussion thread for media so there will likely be spoilers.

Going forward This is a community project. I would like to get input regarding written works and tv/movies that would be a good fit for this. I will leave a comment on this thread that you can respond to if you'd like to offer a suggestion. One suggestion per comment please. You can comment multiple times though. I'd like to make sure the selections are widely accessible, so please add that information if you know for sure something is in the public domain or available online, as that makes it easier to recommend. If you commented suggestions last month and they were not chosen, please feel free to comment them again! I will try to favor the most voted on replies each month, and if you don't comment this month it won't be considered unless there are no other suggestions. Please vote on the other comments you see there (I will not be voting since I'm organizing). I'd like to pair heavier topics in one media with lighter topics in the other, just in case you're wondering why a specific piece was not chosen. Things like language or availability may also affect the selection. I'm also open to changing or adding discussion questions.

Thank you all for your comments last month. Excited to hear your perspectives on this month's picks!

If you missed last month, please feel free to see what great insight your community members brought to the conversation: https://lemmus.org/post/16011446

Some highlights (not to play favorites!):

  • ZDL had a great comment about the book of the month that touched on Daoism, which added a whole new layer to an already richly layered work.
  • Dandelion explained that they didn't perceive the movie of the month as feminist, which was a new angle to me and changed my perspective.
  • Okokimup talks about the movie of the month and brings up body diversity and a huge plot hole I didn't even think of (it's not a top level comment, but still worth reading as a standalone!).
  • Vanth brings up some other media that is in conversation with the book of the month.

PS: Even if you have seen or read the media for this month before, I would encourage a reread or rewatch to best participate in the discussion!

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Hey @greercase@lemmus.org I've pinned your post, apologies should have thought of this before! Feel free to advertise it anytime you want as well

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 1 points 2 hours ago

For Herland:

Do you think this work is told from a feminist perspective? Why?

The author is clearly coming from a feminist perspective, and the narrator alludes to having developed a more feminist perspective many years down the road, but most of the book is told through the narrator's original, decidedly misogynistic point of view.

Do you think the authors gender or gender identity affected their choice of subject, writing style, or perspective character?

Absolutely. She chose to write about a feminist utopia through the point of view of a self-assured young man who believes women are naturally lesser than men. I think the character of Van was useful for setting up prejudiced assumptions that the Herland citizens could easily thwart. In a way it's more effective than a female main character would've been.

Does the narrators gender or gender identity affect the work? If so, how?

Yes. It's obvious she thinks women are capable of much more than western society permitted at the time this was written. I do think she overestimates women's ability to cooperate uniformly in working toward the common good. It's a nice thought but it ignores human nature, so the culture she's created seems very alien.

Did this work change your opinion on anything? If so, what and why?

Not really, but it was interesting to see how a society without men might function. The author clearly put a lot of thought into some of the logistics. Other parts had too much hand-waving - particularly, parthenogenic reproduction, but only when you really want to have a baby. I know the author needed a way for such a society to perpetuate itself but I thought that bit was pretty ridiculous.

Overall this was an interesting read, and I've started reading the follow-up, called With Her In Ourland. I do think it's unrealistic that any large group of people could be so harmonious as Herland, and the emphasis on the supremacy of motherhood didn't sit well with me. Not everyone wants children or thinks that a society geared toward raising children as well as possible would be a utopia.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Ooh I'm excited for this month! Herland looks interesting and I'm looking forward to watching Thelma and Louise again. Thanks Greer!

[–] Greercase@lemmus.org 1 points 2 weeks ago

Agree all around!

[–] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I love everything about this post, thanks for your efforts! I fucking love Thelma and Louise so I'm really happy we're talking about it.

[–] Greercase@lemmus.org 2 points 2 weeks ago

Thank you for YOUR efforts! Glad to see the interest is still here!

[–] Pipster@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I want to get involved this time, I had a tricky month last month and only got around to even watching K-pop demon hunters last night past the end of the month, it arrived too fast. I'll make sure to get this in early :P

[–] Greercase@lemmus.org 3 points 2 weeks ago

If you want, feel free to go back and post your thoughts. I'll still read any new top level comments. Or you can just read and/or respond to other people's comments if you like! I included some highlights at the end of this post, and maybe next time I'll have to feature them more prominently, but Dandelions comment actually made me reassess my feelings on the movie a bit, so definitely some nuggets there imho.

Definitely no pressure to participate every month. Sometimes things get busy, but I'm looking forward to reading your thoughts this month if you end up participating!

[–] Greercase@lemmus.org 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Please post suggestions for next month as a reply to this comment. One suggestion per comment please, but feel free to comment multiple times.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 1 points 2 hours ago

For books: The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf.

I've never read it but it sounds interesting. Here's the synopsis from Amazon:

The bestselling classic that redefined our view of the relationship between beauty and female identity.

In today's world, women have more power, legal recognition, and professional success than ever before. Alongside the evident progress of the women's movement, however, writer and journalist Naomi Wolf is troubled by a different kind of social control, which, she argues, may prove just as restrictive as the traditional image of homemaker and wife. It's the beauty myth, an obsession with physical perfection that traps the modern woman in an endless spiral of hope, self-consciousness, and self-hatred as she tries to fulfill society's impossible definition of "the flawless beauty."

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 weeks ago

just finished Thelma and Louise

spoilers

Do you think this work is told from a feminist perspective? Why?

Yes, for whatever flaws or hypocrisies might exist with this film in terms of its message and values, it absolutely is told from a feminist perspective - the story over and over centers the way women are subjugated (though, from a particularly middle-class, white, and cis perspective). In this film men are mostly dangerous, dishonest, and abusive. The central plot revolves around rape, and domestic abuse is explored. The writer of the film was a woman who explicitly wrote the film based on her own personal experiences, and those of her friend Pam Tillis (who is a country musician), and I suspect if not feminist she certainly would think of her film as being about women's struggles in society.

At times the movie even felt like an exploitation film written for white, middle class women. 😅

Do you think the authors gender or gender identity affected their choice of subject, writing style, or perspective character?

Absolutely, since it's written based on the author's personal experiences, her life as a woman informed everything about the movie.

Does the narrators gender or gender identity affect the work? If so, how?

While I don't remember a narrator, I do want to say I felt there was a real male influence on the film, it's a Ridley Scott movie and many scenes feel lifted straight from Bladerunner (like when Harvey Keitel's character was going through data entries on a computer). There is a patriarchal presence in the film which felt juxtaposed to its plot, a kind of patriarchy that criticizes another form of patriarchy, that the women just needed to trust men and their system and they would have been protected, etc.

Did this work change your opinion on anything? If so, what and why?

will come back to this, but it did shift my view on Ridley Scott some 🤔