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[–] Gloomy@mander.xyz 41 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Millennial here, bordering 40.

I just really don't give a shit how anybody dresses. You want to rock cat ears and anime related stuff? Cool. Painted nails as a guy? Nice one. Wanna wear a dress as a guy? Go for it. Wanna dress like my parents did in their youth? Sure thing. Dress in a way that places you outside of a clearly recognizable gender? Why the fuck not.

Do i get this stuff? Not really. It's mostly part of a world that i am very clearly not part of. And that's fine. I don't have to be in the loop here. Hell, i don't even have to like outfits somebody, that is not me, is wearing.

Wear whatever you like. As long as it makes you happy and you feel like yourself in it, i just don't give a fuck.

[–] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

Based take. Do what makes you happy life is both too short to be upset about how someone else is living their life as well as not living as you want because someone will be upset

[–] Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 day ago

I'm so random. : raises spork into the air:

[–] TheEighthDoctor@lemmy.zip 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Echolynx@lemmy.zip 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Is that Boxxy? That name just jumped out of the depths of some deeply buried memory...

[–] TheEighthDoctor@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 day ago

Yeah, 'It's Boxxy you see'

[–] TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I'm 38. I don't understand this meme. Our style from the 90s and early 00s has come back now, so I totally get the esthetics.

[–] Echolynx@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It is weird seeing bootcuts back in fashion...

[–] TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Not as weird as mullet and mustache combo from the 80s.

[–] Echolynx@lemmy.zip 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Every time I see a young hipster guy with a mustache, I have to manually unlink the pedo association in my brain ...

[–] TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 3 hours ago

For as long as I have lived, I've always thought "that ugly look should never come back. But if it does, the world must be completely fucked up." my Nostradamus moment.

[–] mavu@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 20 hours ago

could really have done without that returning 🤢

[–] possumparty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 93 points 1 day ago (1 children)

this is and always will better than brocolli head and white nike ankle socks

[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 23 points 1 day ago (13 children)

And mom jeans. Why the mom jeans??

[–] socsa@piefed.social 25 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Every generation goes through a trend of trying to dress older than they are. Momcore is kind of the GenZ version of Millennial "preppy" look.

[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

tbh that look repulsed me as well 20 years ago, haha

[–] oddlyqueer@lemmy.ml 21 points 1 day ago (4 children)

They're comfy and I like them.

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[–] Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 92 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Its called fashion, look it up honey

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[–] InvestBurnout@fedia.io 63 points 1 day ago
[–] eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 1 day ago (3 children)

This is now a femboy look.

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 19 hours ago

always was, there's just more of us now

[–] Gladaed@feddit.org 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Boys also dressed in a similar vein back then, no? Pretty sure emo guys were similar.

[–] burt@programming.dev 3 points 20 hours ago

I was very much in that scene, so i can confirm, however was too fat and self conscious for the two sizes too small shirt.

[–] JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago

I saw a Gen z scenegirl/femboy couple on the bus last week lmao

[–] i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 35 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'M GONNA SING THE DOOM SONG NOW

[–] RedSnt 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

What's great about this quote is how inclusive it is, it's literally in the first episode of Invader Zim (not counting the pilot).

[–] ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com 54 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Girls like this were so hot to me in 2008

[–] puppycat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Hexarei@beehaw.org 5 points 23 hours ago

This comment right here officer

[–] Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago

As an elder statesman, I am thankful that my city has a number of seasoned women that still pull off this look.

Half of them are insane, but that is to be expected.

[–] ianfraserkrillmaster@midwest.social 28 points 1 day ago (1 children)

its ok i have a note from my doctor saying i'm allowed to dress like this

[–] Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 day ago

I have two pairs of prescription JNCOS thanks to Obama-Care!

100% had that Gir shirt

[–] Jayjader@jlai.lu 19 points 1 day ago

We walked so that gen z could run, what can I say?

[–] omgboom@lemmy.dbzer0.com 37 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 33 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Who says this? Millennials and Gen-Z basically wear the same shit, at the tail end we’re separated by 0 years.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 22 hours ago

, at the tail end we’re separated by 0 years.

I'm pretty sure that's how every generational boundary works lol

[–] Rooskie91@discuss.online 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Gen Z wears the same socks my grandpa did, except they pay 5x as much as he did, even when adjusted for inflation.

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