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[–] Gloomy@mander.xyz 51 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Millennial here, bordering 40.

I just really don't give a shit how anybody dresses. You want to rock cat ears and anime related stuff? Cool. Painted nails as a guy? Nice one. Wanna wear a dress as a guy? Go for it. Wanna dress like my parents did in their youth? Sure thing. Dress in a way that places you outside of a clearly recognizable gender? Why the fuck not.

Do i get this stuff? Not really. It's mostly part of a world that i am very clearly not part of. And that's fine. I don't have to be in the loop here. Hell, i don't even have to like outfits somebody, that is not me, is wearing.

Wear whatever you like. As long as it makes you happy and you feel like yourself in it, i just don't give a fuck.

[–] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Based take. Do what makes you happy life is both too short to be upset about how someone else is living their life as well as not living as you want because someone will be upset

[–] TheEighthDoctor@lemmy.zip 18 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] bigfondue@lemmy.world 1 points 22 hours ago

You's trollin'!

[–] Echolynx@lemmy.zip 11 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Is that Boxxy? That name just jumped out of the depths of some deeply buried memory...

[–] TheEighthDoctor@lemmy.zip 8 points 2 days ago

Yeah, 'It's Boxxy you see'

[–] Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works 16 points 2 days ago

I'm so random. : raises spork into the air:

[–] TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I'm 38. I don't understand this meme. Our style from the 90s and early 00s has come back now, so I totally get the esthetics.

[–] Echolynx@lemmy.zip 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It is weird seeing bootcuts back in fashion...

[–] TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Not as weird as mullet and mustache combo from the 80s.

[–] Echolynx@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Every time I see a young hipster guy with a mustache, I have to manually unlink the pedo association in my brain ...

[–] TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago

For as long as I have lived, I've always thought "that ugly look should never come back. But if it does, the world must be completely fucked up." my Nostradamus moment.

[–] mavu@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 day ago

could really have done without that returning 🤢

[–] possumparty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 100 points 2 days ago (1 children)

this is and always will better than brocolli head and white nike ankle socks

[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 25 points 2 days ago (13 children)

And mom jeans. Why the mom jeans??

[–] socsa@piefed.social 28 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Every generation goes through a trend of trying to dress older than they are. Momcore is kind of the GenZ version of Millennial "preppy" look.

[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

tbh that look repulsed me as well 20 years ago, haha

[–] oddlyqueer@lemmy.ml 22 points 2 days ago (1 children)

They're comfy and I like them.

[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 17 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I accept the personal comfort level, but the fashion is atrocious 😩

[–] foodandart@lemmy.zip 18 points 2 days ago

Well, when you get to the age where mom jeans are what you want, it's a given that you're also at the no fucks given age WRT fashion.

It's as liberating as hell.

I blew past mom jeans and went straight to cargo shorts and a strap belt to hold them up (in spite of being fat, I still have no ass), flip flop sandals and leg warmers. And an oxblood woolrich winter flannel shirt.

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[–] Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 97 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Its called fashion, look it up honey

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[–] InvestBurnout@fedia.io 65 points 2 days ago
[–] ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com 57 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Girls like this were so hot to me in 2008

[–] puppycat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Hexarei@beehaw.org 6 points 1 day ago

This comment right here officer

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[–] i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 37 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'M GONNA SING THE DOOM SONG NOW

[–] RedSnt 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

What's great about this quote is how inclusive it is, it's literally in the first episode of Invader Zim (not counting the pilot).

[–] eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 30 points 2 days ago (3 children)

This is now a femboy look.

[–] Gladaed@feddit.org 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Boys also dressed in a similar vein back then, no? Pretty sure emo guys were similar.

[–] burt@programming.dev 4 points 1 day ago

I was very much in that scene, so i can confirm, however was too fat and self conscious for the two sizes too small shirt.

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago

always was, there's just more of us now

[–] JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 days ago

I saw a Gen z scenegirl/femboy couple on the bus last week lmao

[–] ianfraserkrillmaster@midwest.social 29 points 2 days ago (1 children)

its ok i have a note from my doctor saying i'm allowed to dress like this

[–] Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 days ago

I have two pairs of prescription JNCOS thanks to Obama-Care!

[–] omgboom@lemmy.dbzer0.com 37 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 34 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Who says this? Millennials and Gen-Z basically wear the same shit, at the tail end we’re separated by 0 years.

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[–] Jayjader@jlai.lu 20 points 2 days ago

We walked so that gen z could run, what can I say?

[–] Rooskie91@discuss.online 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Gen Z wears the same socks my grandpa did, except they pay 5x as much as he did, even when adjusted for inflation.

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[–] rizzothesmall@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 days ago

100% had that Gir shirt

[–] Feddinat0r@feddit.org 16 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I see invader zim, i upvote

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