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If countries' leaders weren't dumb as shit they would offer public dating apps that don't try to exploit people.
These apps work great when the goal is to match people who would get along, capitalism enshittified them.
It's obviously how most people want to meet, why not offer people a dating site that isn't shit to fix isolation?
I honestly think countries don't want to fix their birthrates at all, none of them do anything significant to help them.
I feel like if countries' leaders weren't dumb as shit, they'd work to fix healthcare, education, and the economy, as that would have a much larger positive impact than a dating app.
One of these things can be done with a web app for a very small amount of discretionary spending that doesn't need to be approved by any congress or voters
Like it would probably cost less than 5mil to do it right, every city in the country has that money sitting around and all it would take is 1 of them writing up a contract with a developer.
True but companionship/dating definitely helps in a way
Also we would be getting to the future of awesome stuff way quicker than we are now
The best way to make it better is supporting Alovoa and Duolicious by developing them further and using them as well. That will help in immense ways to improve dating scene. Also would be interesting if we ever get an AdultFriendFinder open source alternative eventually too
What are these sites you mention? I could search for it but then the info wouldn’t be here for others.
https://alternativeto.net/ is a website people use to list all kinds of alternatives to many different things. Alovoa and Duolicious have profiles on there linking to their websites/repositories/etc. Haven't checked what license they have but if they have right one they can be forked if needed
Edit: Just found about Fynd too. It's a non profit but is not open source
Edit 2: Duolicious is a non-profit as well
Hopefully, one of these can take off
Dating sites work best when everyone is on the same app, so the less popular ones usually have a disappointing number of members.
> Works
> Goes home
> Masturbates
> Sleeps
> Works
Why am I single?
Don't forget watch Andrew tate and Joe rogan all night.
"Why are women disgusted by me?"
How you go from person too busy to date to Andrew Tate? That says more about you I think.
If you're suggestion is that lonely people are all dickheads... then you, sir, are a cad
Wtf are you talking about?
You are a Computer Aided Design apparently.
Idk what OP is doing wrong, but in my experience bartenders and service workers are always hooking up - with each other, with patrons, at after work social engagements...
The job sort of requires you to be social, to be friendly, to engage with strangers, and to empathize with other people.
That's not to say the relationships last. Plenty of drama in the service industry, too. Lots of substance abuse. Lots of cheating. Lots of traveling, boom and bust with the economic tides, and risk taking for better or worse.
But the idea that you're just a bartender for ten years and nothing is happening in your life is crazy.
10 years as a server in a sushi restaurant, from 21 to 31, made me think this is an Asian dude who's parents own a sushi joint and he is required to work there.
You are missing one crucial aspect.
90%of greentext is completely fabricated.
If this is true or not is almost irrelevant, these people exist, male and female.
I might have become one of them if not for just sheer luck.
Neurodiversity can have all kinds of effects and not being able to connect with people can be one of them.
Just be kind, to your fellow humans, not everyone can do what they want to do.
I know a lot of people like that. Likeable, but something just keeps them from forming those kind of relationships even just for a hook up.
Someone who is hardworking and disciplined enough to keep the same shitty job for ten years could easily make a partner happy and get satisfaction from a relationship. Too many people look at what other people have and let it make them feel hopeless when they should be looking at what they have themselves and let it make them feel empowered.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
I feel so much better when rather than looking at what others have and wishing i had it too, instead looking at what others lack and seeing if there's anything I can do to help them attain it.
It helps me appreciate what I do have. There are people I love who want me around. It took so long to recognize, internalize, actually feel and experience that fact instead of just ... knowing it in a distant academic sense like 'sure yeah it stands to reason that this is true i guess but i have no proof'...
Until recently, i 'knew' that people cared about me and wanted me around the same way a person born blind can KNOW that the wavelength and frequency of the color Blue are 450 nanometers and about 666 terahertz (heh 🤘) respectively but not have an intrinsic experience of what it's like to see it.
it's nice actually being able to FEEL what i only previously just numbly heard about. and now all i truly want in the world, on the deepest level, beyond petty hedonic desires, is for more other people to know what it's like to feel loved.
This guy is probably asain and his parents probably own the sushi joint, he started after school at 21, and hes required to work and probably won't get fired.
Yes, I think being able to be satisfied is a life skill. If this guy can hold a job and be satisfied with it, I agree so very much that indicates he can be happy in a relationship, and can make someone else happy.
I have a sister-in-law with an objectively good life, quit work after her kid was born, my brother makes enough she doesn't really have to, when she was in Florida she complained it was too hot, they moved to Massachusetts, but then she complained it was too cold, they moved back, in the city complained the house was too small, they moved to a big house in the suburbs well now she complains they are in the suburbs it doesn't matter what her objective situation is, she cannot be satisfied, it's just not in her nature.
Anyone who is going through this, you have to try. You have to put effort into yourself and get used to rejection. It’s not fun but if it’s important to you then it’s important to show up.
I didn’t have my first kiss until 26. I have a wife and two kids. Just so you don’t think it was easy for me.
That’s amazing job stability for a waiter in a sushi place, if that’s real.
The cynic in me says that OP being lonely despite being so empathetic and easy to sympathize with is a rhetorical device.
But on face value, on the off chance that it’s real, it’s clear OP was a constant in the couple’s life, and no doubt a positive one since they kept coming back. It’s not just a sad story, because at least OP gets to be someone to someone else, and that’s something.
Im making assumptions, but this sounds like a guy that started working at his parents sushi place after finishing school.
This is a huge deal. Truly. Male loneliness in particular is a swollen lithium battery ready to be poked. I doubt it will be addressed correctly. I have no idea how to fix it and infinite empathy for anyone, male or female, going through this.
We’ve lost our “village”, those third spaces that provided extended family and friends networks. American “self-reliance” has generated a separated society that has stripped a lot of the support and social network we used to have in favor of a job, a home separate from extended family, and a standalone family unit on their own against the world. Too hard to meet new people, too few clubs, too little money to get into a lot of hobbies, too little free time to spend it on anything other than rest and trying to stay sane.