That sounds like a reasonable request.
If you're open to advice, I'd suggest exploring communicating and unpacking needs with your partner. In the example you've given, you've shared with her that you need things written down in order to better remember a task. Her reply "you should just be able to remember" is unhelpful on it's surface, but it's possible that behind that is a need that's being unmet. Perhaps she feels she's not being listened to? it's worth exploring this with her.
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