WomensStuff

681 readers
133 users here now

Women only trans inclusive This is an inclusive community for all things women. Whether you're here for make up tips, feminism or just friendly chit chat, we've got you covered.

Rules…

  1. Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women's community is a good fit for them.
  2. Don’t be a dick. No personal attacks, no aggression, play nice.
  3. Don’t hate on groups, hatefilled talk about groups is not allowed. Ever.
  4. No governmental politics, so no talk of Trump actions etc. We recommend Feminism@beehaw.org for that, but here is an escape from it.
  5. New accounts or users with few comments may have their posts removed to prevent spam and bad-faith participation.

founded 7 months ago
MODERATORS
26
27
submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by cows_are_underrated@feddit.org to c/womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
 
 

So i got my hands on some good liquid eyeliner, that allows to actually make thin lines so here I Am. I would really like to hear some feedback tips, tricks etc.

Left Eye:

Right Eye

I also did some basic eye-shadow and kinda fucked up so instead of removing the shadow under my right eye I just made it worse lol.

Also tried out fake lashes, but that went horribly wrong when trying to apply them.

27
 
 

I've had candidiasis-like symptoms for over a year. Creams to address it calm them but as soon as I stop, the whole party starts again.

Finally got a diagnosis: lichen sclerosus.

That hasn't provided any relief though, because I've been on treatment since August and I am not even close to a point where I can say I am stable – even following the treatment to the T, and all the advice about hygiene, clothes, dilation exercises, etc.

My libido is in shambles and I dread looking or touching there. Pain, burning, narrowing of both vagina and anus, blood, cracked flesh... How am I supposed to live with this?

I am planning on getting pelvic floor therapy, but cannot afford the expense right now so it'll have to wait a few months.

Is there anyone with this in the room who can provide a semblant of hope...? How long did it take for you to find balance? Any tricks?

Digital hugs are more than welcome too...

28
 
 

If so, what do you plan to be this year? If not, what do you enjoy seeing others wear? Or if you want to talk about why you don't, that's welcome too.

29
 
 
30
31
 
 
32
 
 
33
34
 
 
35
36
150
Friday Fit! (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by oxysis@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
 
 

And Luna!

And my dog Luna Bell

37
 
 
38
 
 

Another week in the bag! Today's game is "what would you do if?", person 1 poses a question, person 2 answers it and then asks there own "what would you do if" question. Have fun!

39
40
 
 

I saw this in F.D Signifiers community post and I think it fits well here: https://blackgirlwatching.substack.com/p/one-battle-after-another-review

TW: racism, sexual assault, abandonment

I didn't see the movie so I don't have much to add, just wanted to share.

41
42
 
 
43
 
 

Lots of great suggestions for this month's book club!

I made the determination based off of votes, which was not super helpful because the highest voted only had two votes, but still. Democracy is democracy!

Our next book shall be “Herland” by Charlotte Perkins Gilman as suggested by Okokimup.

Okokimup commented with several suggestions, but I chose this one because it is thematically relevant to last month which might be helpful for discussion, it is available for free through project Gutenberg, and because it might be more palatable with less trigger warnings than some of the other suggestions. I am still trying to balance a heavy movie with a lighter book, and this is more about a utopia, and from what I can tell does not include as much violence as the movie of the month. It is on the shorter end as far as books go, so hopefully will not be an overly huge time commitment.

Trigger warnings: allusion to attempted sexual assault, racism

I would like to include some discussion questions that are community specific and relevant to feminism, and not generic book club questions, so these will likely be questions I ask regarding every work, subject to change of course.

Some things to think about while reading:

  • Do you think this work is told from a feminist perspective? Why?
  • Do you think the authors gender or gender identity affected their choice of subject, writing style, or perspective character?
  • Does the narrators gender or gender identity affect the work? If so, how?
  • Did this work change your opinion on anything? If so, what and why?

This is not a homework assignment. You can choose to address any or none of the questions posed here, or talk about your general thoughts or whatever else. Please feel free to pose your own questions in the comments as well. These should serve as a handy springboard if needed, but not a mandatory outline for your comment.

For the October movie we will be watching Thelma & Louise as suggested by klemptor.

There seems to be a few sites where it is available for streaming, some of which are free with ads, so hopefully everyone will have at least one way they can watch.

Trigger warnings: domestic abuse, sexual violence, general violence, guns, suicide

The writer, Callie Khouri, won an academy award for best original screenplay for this movie. I'll be taking that as an invitation to pay particular attention to word choice, so I'm hoping to see some realistic Bechdel approved dialogue.

Same spiel as above: I would like to include some discussion questions that are community specific and relevant to feminism, and not generic movie club questions, so these will likely be questions I ask regarding every work, subject to change of course.

Some things to think about while watching:

  • Do you think this work is told from a feminist perspective? Why?
  • Do you think the authors gender or gender identity affected their choice of subject, writing style, or perspective character?
  • Does the narrators gender or gender identity affect the work? If so, how?
  • Did this work change your opinion on anything? If so, what and why?

This is not a homework assignment. You can choose to address any or none of the questions posed here, or talk about your general thoughts or whatever else. Please feel free to pose your own questions in the comments as well. These should serve as a handy springboard if needed, but not a mandatory outline for your comment.

Comments are spoilers territory. If you want to use spoiler tags in the comments, please do, but it is not required. If you venture into the comments please keep in mind this is a discussion thread for media so there will likely be spoilers.

Going forward This is a community project. I would like to get input regarding written works and tv/movies that would be a good fit for this. I will leave a comment on this thread that you can respond to if you'd like to offer a suggestion. One suggestion per comment please. You can comment multiple times though. I'd like to make sure the selections are widely accessible, so please add that information if you know for sure something is in the public domain or available online, as that makes it easier to recommend. If you commented suggestions last month and they were not chosen, please feel free to comment them again! I will try to favor the most voted on replies each month, and if you don't comment this month it won't be considered unless there are no other suggestions. Please vote on the other comments you see there (I will not be voting since I'm organizing). I'd like to pair heavier topics in one media with lighter topics in the other, just in case you're wondering why a specific piece was not chosen. Things like language or availability may also affect the selection. I'm also open to changing or adding discussion questions.

Thank you all for your comments last month. Excited to hear your perspectives on this month's picks!

If you missed last month, please feel free to see what great insight your community members brought to the conversation: https://lemmus.org/post/16011446

Some highlights (not to play favorites!):

  • ZDL had a great comment about the book of the month that touched on Daoism, which added a whole new layer to an already richly layered work.
  • Dandelion explained that they didn't perceive the movie of the month as feminist, which was a new angle to me and changed my perspective.
  • Okokimup talks about the movie of the month and brings up body diversity and a huge plot hole I didn't even think of (it's not a top level comment, but still worth reading as a standalone!).
  • Vanth brings up some other media that is in conversation with the book of the month.

PS: Even if you have seen or read the media for this month before, I would encourage a reread or rewatch to best participate in the discussion!

44
 
 

Cooked something delicious? Helped your child with a problem? Did some art? However you've been created, tell us here!

45
 
 

I have a technical interview tomorrow morning for a job after 18 months and I feel like I'm going to fail. I have no idea why though because I've been damn good at my jobs for 20 years. I just have a 6 month old that I watch 5 days a week, work a fast food job the other 2 days, a spouse that is recovering from cancer, a disease that the chemo had on him, and now an appendicitis. I NEED a job, I am running through money faster than I can make it. I'm worried that all of these pressures put more stress on me which translates somehow to my interviews.

46
47
 
 

48
 
 

Who do you look at on screen and say "ooh I LOVE their sense of style"?

49
 
 

I'm not good at this kind of thing. Does anyone fancy doing posts once a week or so about them?

50
 
 

Want to natter but don't wanna do a full thread? Do it here !

view more: ‹ prev next ›