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How do I politely turn down a teenage girl? (lemm.ee)

submitted 2 days ago by poisonapple@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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(Yes, I’m aware of these bait-y titles.)

Anyway, I’m 23 years old. I live in my house with my wife. We have many teens in the neighborhood, which is good for my sister-in-law but one of them took a particular liking to me.

The girl and I just casually started talking when I would go for walks, for example. She then started acting really weird, like giggly or flushed. She told me she was bi but preferred women. I’m a lesbian.

Eventually, she confessed that she had feelings for me, though she knew I couldn’t return them. She has also told her friend (19F) that we are dating, when I told her this was not the case and I was married.

I am married and do not like this fourteen-year-old girl. How do I be respectful about not returning her feelings even if she knows I’m married?

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[–] etchinghillside@reddthat.com 136 points 2 days ago (1 children)

No need to be polite. Set clear and firm boundaries and burn the bridge.

[–] Geodad@lemm.ee 30 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Right? That's jailbait and a homewrecker.

[–] Grapho@lemmy.ml 50 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I don't think that's fair, that's a child. Children can get infatuated with people and they don't have the experience or the frame of reference to measure the consequences.