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I’d choose the bear, cus they avoid humans, and with certain types of bears, you can make yourself look bigger than them to scare them away (don’t think you can do that with a man)
He specifically says "strange" man.
I don't know that I'd pick that over the wild animals of the forest even as a guy.
In the middle of a forest, the only other humans I'd feel 100% safe running into are ones I already know.
It is truly amazing to me how few people understand even the elementary aspects of risk management.
A known danger is easier to manage than an unknown one.
Bears are dangerous, but largely predictable. They usually don't go after humans at all (and indeed usually go the other direction). And if they seem angry, there's simple things you can do (it rhymes with "back away slowly" because identical rhymes are still rhymes) that will defuse the situation almost immediately.
Men are for the most part decent human beings. Most men you meet will not be monsters. The problem is that there's really no way to distinguish the monsters from the decent men until it's way too late. And extricating yourself from an interaction with a strange man in the forest is not as straightforward as it is for a bear. Backing away slowly might work, or it might trigger that silicon chip inside their brain and slip it to "overload" and make them get angry that you don't trust them. And the penalty for making a bad choice is serious bodily harm as the good outcome. There are worse ones after that.
So just from straightforward risk assessment it's better to meet a bear in the woods than a strange man. Because a bear is more predictable and easier to manage.
I admit my username is misleading but I am a woman.
I kind of hate this question because I keep feeling like something is wrong with me for picking the man. The biggest threat is neither the man nor the bear, it's the forest. If you're lost in the woods dying of exposure is the biggest danger. As a bear lives in the woods and men by and large do not, encountering a bear would be neutral (as you're kind of in the bear's house) and a man positive if you're lost because a. He's statistically likely to be part of a search party and b. Even if he's not, hell, even if he's the biggest asshole who ever lived, it means you're within walking distance of a way out.
I promise I'm not trying to be a smartass, I genuinely don't get it. I do suspect I may be autistic though...am I just being too literal?
You're just filling in parts irrelevant to the question with things that undermine the question.
Let me reframe this so the irrelevant parts are handled and you can focus on the question that's actually being asked.
You're in the forest because you're an avid, experienced camper. You have supplies. You have all the tools needed for proper navigation and orienteering. You're in the forest alone because you enjoy the solitude and want to commune with nature to recharge your social batteries or whatever.
While you, an independent woman, fully capable of taking care of your physical needs, and not in any particular desire for social interaction, are in the forest, you have the choice of what to encounter:
Which do you choose?
That makes a fair bit more sense, thank you. At that point I would be more "on average bear, with some minor variance under specific edge cases".
For what it's worth, I wasn't trying to add irrelevant information; I just admittedly have a bit of a tendency to overanalyze in general and my immediate response when this was initially making the rounds was to try and use ALL the information provided.
In hindsight, I think if it had been "a bear alone in the woods or a strange man alone on an otherwise abandoned street" I'd have clocked it a lot easier.
Sounds like you've had mostly good experiences with strangers, which is frankly quite nice. And obviously, you had a strong bond with at least one male, who listened to you and wanted to work together with you. He understood you, and it's just sad that he stopped being your friend when those pesky crewmembers cured the Hex Virus.
Yup.
I grew up with sisters, one of which I was able to discuss this type of stuff with.
It doesn't have to be all men. Because it can be any man.
Some of the conversations I had with her even made me realize that I'm probaly a bit too trusting, and complacent in my being a man.
A stranger doesn't necesserily need to be physically stronger than me to force their will on me, or otherwise cause me harm. Trusting a malicious person just once, can be lethal.
Thanks for popping in mental edge! Youve made some really interesting points. We're women only, so please don't comment again. 🥰