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I've seen people consider even 5'7" as short for some reason so i'm curious if it has happened with someone

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[โ€“] Kangy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I'm 5ft11 and I think I just get rejected for being myself rather than my height ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™‚๏ธ

[โ€“] dumbass@leminal.space 2 points 5 days ago

Same, 5ft11 as well, I think we're both too tall and too short for people.

[โ€“] starlinguk@lemmy.world 17 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I (woman, 5'10") was dumped for being too tall.

[โ€“] Madagaskar_sky@lemmy.world 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[โ€“] WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.works 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Madagaskar_sky@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago (9 children)

Is dude not back to being gender neutral again? What are we going with?

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My favorite height in a woman is the height of the woman who is interested in me.

[โ€“] Kolanaki@pawb.social 10 points 6 days ago (3 children)

I can't ride the go karts at the nearby go kart track because I am too tall ๐Ÿ˜”

[โ€“] SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Flying and being tall is a nightmare.

[โ€“] Kolanaki@pawb.social 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Whoa what? Since when can tall people fly?

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[โ€“] El_guapazo@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago

I tell people I'm 4'23" and that sorts them out.

[โ€“] Flickerby@lemm.ee 10 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I lucked out into being born 5'10, not tall enough to need special clothes, but short enough so the shallow "6ft or nothing" women self filter themselves and I don't have to deal with them myself. I had a buddy who was 5'4ish who was an absolute disgusting human being but always blamed being alone on his height, also have a buddy who 5'2ish and married to an absolutely wonderful woman

[โ€“] 0ops@lemm.ee 27 points 6 days ago

I lucked out into being born 5'10,

RIP mom

[โ€“] RBWells@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'm a tall lady (for my area, though shortest of my siblings), about the average height of guys here, and yeah. Some guys have sounded very accusatory actually - as though I grew tall on purpose to make them feel short. Oddly enough, none of those were literally short guys.

No big deal, I like my height, shorter is not something I've ever wished to be. All 3 of my long term relationships have been with guys about my same height.

[โ€“] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 5 days ago

I'd consider myself to not care about if my partner was higher than me.
But if I am really honest with me, I do think it would hurt my pride if my partner was taller.
I am totally fine if equal or whatever else size. But I believe if the personality is near total hit and fits mine, I could totally see past that.

I'm too tall for that. But on a lot of dates i go, the woman tells me that she's glad i'm tall and then tell me a story how they went on a date with a short guy and how awkward that was.

[โ€“] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I thought this thread was talking about applying for jobs and was so confused

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[โ€“] Elextra@literature.cafe 7 points 6 days ago

Reading the thread. Most of you guys are not THAT short lol. I actually married my guy who is 5'1". He has a nice smile, funny and smart.

He has told me unfortunately that he has often been declined often by women due to his height. We have asked our mutual friends who said they won't date someone who is that short which is unfortunate because they all love him too.

He's pretty confident, professional, so people from work finally meet him in person, they are surprised he is not taller.

[โ€“] BenjiRenji@feddit.org 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

I'm a tiny bit shorter than 5'7" and yes, rejected multiple times because of it, but they don't always tell you why, so some of it is speculation. I've dated taller women a few times as well, so it's not that bad. My wife now is a lot shorter though, but I don't think height played much a role for us. If I were much taller we may even be incompatible.

I'm 6'2" and I dated a woman taller than me. That was very odd not having to look down or crouch to hug. lol

I dated one woman who was so much shorter compared to me our favorite time to kiss was on the stairs.

[โ€“] daggermoon@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

No, but I was rejected because I couldn't drive.

[โ€“] Jimmycakes@lemmy.world 5 points 6 days ago

No. I got married before online dating existed

[โ€“] Zugyuk@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago

Yeah, most awkward job interview I have ever had

[โ€“] rc__buggy@sh.itjust.works 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Only two ladies didn't like my height lying down

HEYOOOOO

[โ€“] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

.... Out of two

HEEYYOOOOOO

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[โ€“] OceanSoap@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (3 children)

I'm a 5'7 woman. Yes, I've been rejected a couple times because I'm on the taller side.

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Long, somewhat related story:

Many moons ago I was at a club and was dying for a smoke, but you had to leave the club and go through two sets of lines and ID checks to get to where I was hanging out on the second floor. Well, they had a giant outdoor balcony, but the area was walled off by a line of plastic chairs. My drunk, fiendin, ass said, "fuck it", shuffled a chair out of the way, and snuck off to the corner to smoke. Well, what was one or two people who noticed me and did the same, soon turned into a packed balcony.

Regardless, my little act of rebellion seemed to get the attention of a "tallish" girl in heels who started chatting me up. About 3/4 through my smoke, the bouncers finally catch wind that there's fifty people on the balcony, and start angrily shuffling people back into the club. At this point, I ask the chick if she wants to dance, and she accepts.

Kudos to her for lasting as long as she did, but thirty seconds into grinding her ass on my stomach, she gave up trying to dance with me and walked away without a word, never to be seen again.

I wouldn't even consider myself short (1.78m, 5'10"), but it was a humbling moment at the time.

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