Bisexuals know what pan means.
I have no interest in participating in freaky alien sex as their 43rd gender partner.
LOOK AT YOURSELF, PANS, THEY DON'T EVEN HAVE SKIN
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Bisexuals know what pan means.
(It means bread)
Nervously defends my cookware cabinets.
Basic answer: Bi likes two and maybe more, where Pan explicitly likes any, which you use just show's your starting point.
Real answer: Those who resonate with using Bi as a label likely started or wants to start on a common level of understanding of LGBT, whereas people who resonate with Pan start deep into LGBT discourse.
True answer: It's which flag you like better.
True answer: It's which flag you like better
My bi ass feels called out by this, so I'm going to say that makes you based
I spent a while trying to find a simple answer to this. I think it's most easily interpreted as:
Bi: Implies you like both of the genders. No real preference.
Pan: implies you recognize there is a range of masculinity and femininity, and of course cis and trans, and thus you are attracted to a range of genders. Not explicitly feminine or masculine, but likes anyone on the spectrum of genders.
I think the main problem here is that even people within the community confuse "sex" with "gender".
Sex is a biological concept. According to biology, mammals have two sexes. Period.
Gender is a social/cultural/psychological concept. There's a whole spectrum of genders.
Wouldn't that mean that "bisexual" is someone attracted to the physical/biological attributes of of both sexes, while "pansexual" is someone attracted to the range of social/cultural/psychological attributes on the gender spectrum?
I think you're missing nuance with 'mammals have two sexes. Period' - there's a range of intersex possibilities, chromosomes that don't match organs, chromosomes that aren't xx or xy (e.g xxy), generic chimeras with more than one set of sex chromosomes. What you mean it 'usually'
bisexuality isn't inherently transphobic!
not saying you're necessarily implying that, but it's a general stereotype which, while it can be true on an individual level, certainly isn't when taken as a whole
here's the bisexual manifesto, also, since it goes hard: https://bitheway.carrd.co/#manifesto
Oooh I had not seen that. With this in mind, I have to just assume that pan came about not knowing that bi had already by definition not limited to the two typical genders.
I had not thought bi to be transphobic, nor that bisexuals actually fit into interest in just two separate genders. I just thought it was perhaps an outdated term that sounds that way. Thank you for the clarification!
There really needs to be more discussion on this stuff. I only recently discovered the terms gynosexual and androsexual. Those could have been super useful when I was younger.
I've heard some people describe pansexuality as being attraction without regard to gender. This makes intuitive sense to me, speaking as a bisexual whose attraction to different genders feels different qualitatively
One is sexually attracted to bicycles and the other one is in to cookware. I can't remember which is which.
Bisexuals are attracted to cookware (think "biscuits"), and pansexuals are attracted to bicycles (think "panniers").
Is that why the gay girl in my circle of friends keeps announcing that she got a new toaster oven?
No, she's just trying to flirt with one of you.
I guess we should start teaching Latin in the Church-Schools so that MAGAts grow up knowing the roots of words. It might diminish any future sexual orientation hostility for those folks to understand that 2 and more than 2 are not synonymous. Once we get there, we'll be back to the 1950s!!!!
Not to be confused with getlaidmites and getlaidtights. :)
Bi means someone finds male and female genders attractive (masculine or feminine). They probably aren’t attracted to androgyny or less “traditional” genders (since it becomes pan).
Pan means gender doesn’t matter. Enbies, trans people, and anyone else could be attractive.
In other words, Pan is Bi++
If we aren’t splitting hairs, they are mostly used synonymously, but “pan” is more precise for folks that open to partners regardless of their gender.
Wrong
Easy: bisexual people are REALLY into cycling and pansexual people can't contain their lust for Andean flute music.
From my experience this is honestly as good as any other definition in this thread.
I suspect in the long ago, there may have been some drama about bi implying only two, and people taking exception to that but we have since moved on after realizing it was a stupid argument. There were far more important things to argue about, like kink at pride.
For a very long time I would respond to questions about my sexuality with "I don't like labels". I wasn't being glib or evasive, I just didn't like how diminishing it was to reduce my entire life's experience and decisions to one word. I tend to interpret the more creative labels people come up with in the same vein. For me, trying to enforce a rigid definition on other people's self-labelling misses the point entirely.
Yeah, I'm bisexual because I need either a penis or a vagina for sex. I've run into others saying that this makes me transphobic, but as an AFAB agender person, I find it deeply disturbing that there's "progressives" out there who'll admit they can't respect me as a person if they don't want to fuck me.
Yeah you'd think the community would be a little more accepting of people who don't fit a strict definition, or don't present a certain way.
But it's just as judgemental and gatekeepy as every other community. You have to present a certain way or say you're a certain thing to fit in. It's very depressing and has made me even more cynical.
Honestly, I find most of the judgemental and gatekeepy tends to come from a handful of people who never grew up. Trauma tends to create a sort of arrested development, and people can mentally get 'stuck' at the maturity they were when it happened. Gatekeeping is a form of cope, where they function under the belief that if their criteria is narrow enough, they'll be safe.
It's the idea that if you can make a group where everybody is exactly like you, you'll all get along. It's flawed logic, because there are always parts of you that you don't like, and it's even more aggravating when you see your flaws in others, but it makes sense to me.
David: "I do drink red wine, but I also drink white wine and I've been known to sample the occasional rose and a couple summers back I tried a merlot that used to be a chardonnay which got a bit complicated."
Pansexual is explicitly inclusive of gender having more than two options. A bisexual person might be attracted to both men and women but may not be interested in genderqueer, third gender, intersex, or other "other" category people.
bisexuality isn't inherently transphobic!
it's a general stereotype which, while it can be true on an individual level, certainly isn't when taken as a whole
here's the bisexual manifesto, also, since it goes hard: https://bitheway.carrd.co/#manifesto
Debating identity definitions 😞
Accepting that identities are fluid definitions we made up 😎
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In my opinion they mean the same thing. I identify as bi because I like the flag more.
Based take
Same. Also, "bi" is only two letters and I'm lazy.
I'm pan, and I think of it like this:
Pan means you're attracted to people regardless of their gender. Bi means you're attracted to more than one gender.
No hate though, if anyone else defines them differently. That's just how I see it.
bisexual.py:
def is_sexually_attracted_to(self, other):
return other.gender in self.preferred_gender
pansexual.py:
def is_sexually_attracted_to(self, other):
# TODO: factors based on other traits TBI
return True
Close enough?
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How about pansexuals who just say bisexual because there is better chance that people will actually know what you're talking about
(Just in casual conversation with strangers, obviously.)
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