Not gross just true.
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It may be natural and normal, but some of us do find it gross and hate dealing with it. Main reason I'm on continuous hormonal birth control and had an endometrial ablation.
That said.... I would probably identify as as trans guy if I had been born twenty years later than I was.
if you can find someone to do it without causing excruciating pain, I've heard good things about getting an IUD to eliminate periods 🤷♀️ particularly around this period of life
This is really personal, and different for everyone.
I got light periods on my IUD, but it caused pain down into my legs (it was so weird). When I had it removed after only 2 years, I was certain it was the cause of the extra pain. It was.
Im not on anything now, we use condoms, the wierd leg pain stopped as soon as I removed the IUD.
While it can help some folks, like most things, there's never a one size fits all answer.
absolutely, IUD can be problematic in so many ways - only mentioning it because I know people that have really been helped, but clearly it won't work for everyone, and it comes at the risk of a potentially traumatizing experience with the insertion - many women experience excruciating pain during IUD insertion.
I also wonder if bio-identical estrogen could help stabilize and maintain estrogen levels and help with symptoms? I don't know enough tbh, but it seems like women's health needs more attention and better attention from experts.
Regardless, more women need to know there are options and that just toughing out menopause symptoms is not necessary anymore.
I've had two in my life.
The first was copper (non-hormonal). Putting it in didn't hurt much. I bled almost every single day for the next year and a half. Cramping was bad. Removal was not terribly painful. 0/10.
Second has been hormonal. To be transparent, I have PCOS so I already did not have regular periods, but I haven't had a single period in 3 years now. I think I spotted once. I get cramps once in a while (though that could also be the PCOS). It didn't hurt much going in (though I had a bad experience with the male doctor/ptsd). Life has been so good, I forget that I ever even had periods to be honest. 10/10.
Both times I took ibuprofen before the procedure, but I know they sometimes offer stronger if you ask. If you're comfortable being on hormones, I do recommend.
I am one of the lucky ones who responds well to hormonal birth control, and my IUD is a godsend. I don’t get a period at all anymore. Every few months I get a bit of light spotting. I also have PMDD, and without a period, all of my emotional instability has disappeared. Absolutely life changing. The birth control aspect of my IUD is like the bonus, lol.
But I do agree with the other commenter that IUDs and particularly hormonal birth control is not for everyone. I’ve had friends go through really rough stuff trying new meds and it was really eye opening for me who never had any issues with it. Don’t stick with something if it’s not working for you.
I've had several IUDs and loved them all. Getting the first one wasn't awesome because the measuring stick thing "got caught" on something. I personally preferred the copper one (still get periods), but a few of my friends swear by the hormonal ones.
Ahh yes, good ol' perimenopause. Unpredictable periods are often the first sign. >_>