Definitely tough for a person in that age group, although the other comments gave good advice.
In general, I'd say the options are:
- A student visa hoping you can turn it into something more permanent later
- Work visa - self-explanatory, find a job in the target country that will sponsor your visa
- Critical skills visa - some countries will offer visas to people in certain fields because they have a shortage in that industry.
- "Join Family" visa - some countries might offer visas to extended family, so if you have family somewhere else you can join them. They'll probably have to prove they can provide for you, at a minimum.
- Spousal visa - i.e. if you marry someone overseas or are married to someone who already has dual-citizenship, you should be able to get a visa to live in their country instead.
- Get citizenship via ancestry (depends on country, but usually has to be a parent or grandparent who has citizenship already)
- Apply to be some kind of refugee - almost certainly not applicable for the US yet though
Some countries might have even less restrictive options, but those are the ones I'm aware of in most western countries.
Unfortunately public votes aren't a choice, it's a requirement for how the system works. Reddit also knew who voted for what, but it was safely hidden on their servers.
Every post and every vote is replicated across all the Lemmy servers (well, simplification, but mostly true).
Server owners don't have to share it, but the information is in the database so it's always going to be possible for someone to make a tool that displays it.
There's not really an alternative - the Lemmy server needs to know what each person has voted on so it displays to them, so they can only vote once, etc. Not to mention that if it was anonymous, you could probably engineer a malicious system on other Lemmy servers to do massive vote manipulation even easier.
I'm not seeing a way to both make things distributed and anonymous.