WomensStuff

Since not getting married or reproducing have both been mentioned quite a bit (and are for sure my top two as well), I’ll go a bit further down the line.

I’m really glad I stopped wearing makeup at 15., and never started again. I’m just shy of 40 now and on the rare occasion I do wear something, for a wedding or something, everyone gushes about how nice it looks and that feels good, but I am thrilled I don’t waste my time or money on it every day. My skin looks 10 years younger, and I’m not financially contributing to marketing campaigns that make people self-conscious about their appearance.

(If makeup is your jam that’s cool, zero judgement, I’m just very lazy and don’t care how I look enough to spend money and time on it)

Im glad that I was rejected by my community, I wouldn't want to be accepted among awful bigots and transphobes.

I've been with my husband for a long time - it'll be 25 years this September. We only got married 3 years ago, and it was because I needed to go on his health insurance so I could retire. We were both happy with not being married, and also both fine with tying the knot once we saw an actual reason to do it. We didn't have a wedding, we just self-united (something you can do in Pennsylvania thanks to Quaker tradition) and filed the paperwork with the state. We don't wear rings and I kept my name. Literally nothing changed other than my health insurance.

Until we got married, a lot of people seemed really unable to understand why I didn't care about getting married. In the beginning there was a lot of external pressure/expectation on us to get married, which did die off after a while. I'm really glad that we did it on our own terms when it made sense to us, rather than caving to societal expectations.

Not having children. It's a relief. The thought of having to take care of a small extremely vulnerable being, and form it into a good member of society? Fuck that. Also it's going to DIE someday and that would be my fault bringing it into an entropic universe.

No thanks.

Where I live, women are expected to take on all or most of the domestic duties and childcare despite also working full time. While I don’t mind doing these things, I am vehemently opposed to being defaulted to them just because I happened to be born without a penis. I don’t see a value in living with another person if I’m going to be doing everything by myself anyway.

For me it's having kids. I never wanted them and people kept saying I'd change my mind, needed to meet the right person, my feelings would change if I had one etc. I always flat out refused and would point blank tell people this. I've never had kids, and I'm nearly menopausal and single so definitely won't. And I'm 1000000% happy I don't!

I love my freedom, children and parenting isn't my cup of tea and I've really done what's right for me.

Marriage. Procreation.

That's two.

All of them, basically