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[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 hours ago

how fem would the boy need to be, hypothetically?

[–] FGoo@sh.itjust.works 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yes, i would very much like to be the little spoon, how did you know?!

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago
[–] nutbutter@discuss.tchncs.de 41 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You’re such a good boy @nutbutter@discuss.tchncs.de! Do you band some headpats? Come here my love! pat pat pat. Let me also give you come ear scritches scratch scratch scratch. Heeeeeeeee hugs you tight you’re such a lovely booyyy! I which I could hold you forever 💖

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

sorry just a small chubby hairy dude but i give good hugs i'm told

[–] ignotum@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago

Ehy would i want to kill my depression? it's my oldest friend!

[–] igilq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Are you looking for real or is this a joke?

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Kinda. We aren’t gonna be able to meet up and actually cuddle, but can at least send cuddling animal pics to each other.

[–] igilq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Well, i do know such person

[–] Arkhive@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Me: 192cm rock climber transfemme. Broad shouldered, strong back and arms, will do pull ups in front of you.

Me: Hi honey, what do you need??

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

ROCK CLIMBER????? GIRL?????

IM IN LOVE!!!!!

let’s go camping together and cuddle in a hammock with a beautiful view!!! Mosquitos and the cold be damned!

[–] Arkhive@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Only problem is I grew up in a mosquito plagued land, so now they all avoid me out of respect for my time off at war and exclusively go after anyone else I’m with. I do have good reflexes though, so as long as you’re down with the odd slap to “kill a mosquito ;)” we should be just fine.

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

Don’t threaten me with a good time!

Sis, honestly, you’re perfect!

I’m actually looking for someone like you irl: a sporty mommy that will make me work out and will go camping with me.

Someone will be very lucky when they find you! (Assuming you’re not aroace lmao)

[–] BakedCatboy@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I wonder if cuddling virtually in VR has an effect too, because it's a super popular activity, and it still kinda feels good and you sometimes can trick yourself into feeling touch sensations when you see someone rub your virtual face or arm in the same place where your real arm is if that makes sense.

[–] Bubs@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago

Can confirm it feels nice. You don't get any of the physical sensation of course, but you do get a lot of the symbolic feelings. Like, "it's nice sharing this intimate moment with you".

If it's someone you have feelings for, it's pretty nice. If you do it with pretty much anyone then it's more just a nice comforting feeling.

Side-by-side, it doesn't compare to the real thing, but when you live far apart, it's nice to get any closeness you can find.

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I sometimes feel the same (but weaker) as cuddling by watching or listening to cuddle asmr. So yea, in VR, when it’s a real person that is actually interacting with you, it would probably feel nice too.

[–] BakedCatboy@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah it definitely feels nice that's for sure 😄 I was caught off guard the first time one of my friends rubbed my cheek instead of the usual head pat and I was like wait I felt something 😳

I'm totally gonna turn into a virtual cuddle slut aren't I lmao

[–] Natanox@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You guys are basically edging your brains into producing oxytocine.

I mean, if it works. Having a roommate I can hug almost whenever I need literally solved some health issues for me, so I won't judge. Whatever releases that damn oxy.

[–] BakedCatboy@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Haha true. I mean I also have a cuddly partner who I live with, I got into vrchat mainly to have friends but I'm also quickly realizing it's also full of gooners and touch starved people, and lots of queer and trans furries. Which is cool too, they're a lot of fun to be around.

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

They’re a lot of fun to be around

The gooners or the queer people 😳

[–] BakedCatboy@lemmy.ml 1 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

They're the same picture .jpg (at least in the corner of the VRChat community that I've been in, not necessarily in general)

I feel like it's very similar to the kink community in that there's heavy overlap between marginalized groups so you get outsized representation of certain demographics. People who are sex positive, live nontraditional lifestyles, tend to be very open and accepting, which makes a lot of sense considering the typical values of queer and furry communities. I also had the experience of going to IRL kink events and noticing that there were a lot of anarchists.

[–] HasturInYellow@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

Man I wish this were true. Love cuddling, but damn. Depression got hands.

[–] narr1@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 day ago

i love everything about this thread and just wanted to upvote everything here so far because of loving vibes, and so i did.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

i wan bt dun hav any frens rn,,,

[–] ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Is it because of the way you type?

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 23 hours ago (1 children)
[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 19 hours ago

don’t listen to them, cutie! the way you type is very interesting and unique! and as a bonus it filters out closed minded people like that they.

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago

hey fella don’t be a typist

[–] tekeous@beehaw.org 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I actually don’t know what I’m into more, a short queen who I could just put in my pocket, or a tall Amazon gf to help me reach the top shelf

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 19 hours ago

I knooowwwww 😫😫😫😭

Maybe the poly people had it figured out the whole time

[–] erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Get hugged lmao