Kindness
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I agree ; -)
Intelligence
I so feel this. Whenever someone has a smart niche, whether it's just reading a lot or being skilled at something like maths, they become sooo much more attractive to me
Curiosity for things
Yep, even if someone doesn't know something it's perfect if they're open to learning more :)
They don't have to be interested in every topic, it's the openness that goes a long way
Passion for something. Itβ²s such a turnoff when you are talking to somebody and they aren't interested in anything.
Current events? Meh. Books? Meh. Films/Shows? Meh.
I don't care if it's stamp collecting or chewing gum flavors or the history of wallpaper design, just be passionate or interested in something. At least we can converse for while on that topic.
It's from China. Wallpaper I mean.
Yes I looked it up. Your joke made me cry.
Sense of humor
I married my wife because she was the first person to teach me to laugh at myself.
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Authorship of open-source GPU drivers.
Ah. The dream wife of all geeks
General open-mindedness/respect/mindfullness.
Yes mindfulness. Self awareness.
A rich family.
Confidence
Having an interest in sharing something with you without making you feel stupid about it.
Went to about art museum with a guy, and he was super excited to tell me about certain pieces and artists and their history. He was very kind when I asked questions about things that were probably very obvious to a more studious person.
Was on his arm by the end of the date. Absolutely smitten!
Is his other arm available?
We broke up eventually and haven't talked in years, unfortunately. So... maybe!
Can make smart and educated jokes. Will laugh at fart jokes.
Empathy and I can't find a single word to describe it but being able to understand and recognize other sides of opinions or arguments/debates, respectfully of course
What your opinion of the Republic party and those that support it?
Someone who doesn't impose their will, beliefs, or anything else on another person.
My ex wife worked very hard at changing me, until I barely recognised who I was. My now wife let me be myself again, and I will forever lover her for that.
Compassion
A good sense of humor.
Surprised good sense of humor or wit arenβt on here yet. Playfully sparring with someone or laughing until it hurts when you hang around a person are a turn on.
Wit for men. There's nothing sexier than making a woman laugh. Sheer intelligence for women. Once I had an erection listening to my ex gf reasoning.
Being nice and kind to everyone most of the time. Being positive.
The most attractive quality a person can have is being into me.
Doesn't beat me or slap my nuts with a spatula
Independence
I like people who demonstrate the capability to think independently and come up with original ideas. The opposite of this are people with whom I only need to hear your stance on few subjects after which I know what you think about everything else too. If you agree with your friends about most things you're probably not very interesting person. Same applies if you disagree about most things too.
A good personality.
Its the single most important characteristic someone needs to have.
I like to imagine the people downvoting this are vapid, miserable assholes who are angry because every relationship they've ever had has failed, in flames, because their now ex partners told them they have awful personalities.
good personality
uses most of the words in the comment to wish everyone who downvotes a terrible and miserable life
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Intelligence, and a shared interest. It's almost impossible for me to care about someone who doesn't even know how to use their own devices.
The way of using their voice
Ah yes, I too value the mastery of the Thu'um in my partner.
Def curisity and a desire to learn/improve in basically any way.
Moxy
Uh, you misspelled Moxie. Only the best soda by a mile.
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