This is a place to share greentexts and witness the confounding life of Anon. If you're new to the Greentext community, think of it as a sort of zoo with Anon as the main attraction.
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I'm an ugly woman and I remember getting a compliment from someone at dunkin. It was another woman, but she said I looked pretty. I think to this day she's the only person who has complimented me that wasn't a friend or something. π
I've had plenty of men yell out "huge bitch" and what have you though. π€·πΏββοΈ
I don't imagine they were quoting Deuce Bigalow?
Some of them definitely were. They said it with the inflection and everything. π
One time a girl in a bar just walked up to me and asked if I wanted to make out. Of course, it happened after I was well into a relationship with the person who is now my wife, so I had to turn her down, but it felt amazing.
in the psych ward because verbal abuse from my mom bc I'm trans (among other reasons),
"woah how that XXX left, there's only girls here!"
It's the sweetest thing anybody other than my sister has told me
"If I wasn't a lesbian, I'd 100% date you"
Normally, I'd write this off as someone "letting me down easy", but this was my best friend in High school that I knew for years, so I know the sentiment was genuine.
"You smell so nice" - a gay female co-worker. I was wearing a new cologne that I purchased for myself. It was very expensive so I'm glad I chose well
Girls have a super power they can use to live rent free in any guy's head pretty much eternally. All they need to do is catch them off guard with a compliment.
A guy will keep a shirt until it literally disintegrates if one time a girl said "that color looks good on you." Pretty much every guy that wears a particular cologne, wears that cologne because at some point a girl said he smelled nice. It's not even a horny brain thing I don't think. It's just that guys get so few compliments on their appearance that every single one is massively precious to them.
girls would do this more often but there's always the (justified tbh) fear that the guy will take it the wrong way and get weird about it :(
It goes both ways I think too. Guys wouldnβt obsess over the idea that a single compliment might be flirting if they were more used to compliments in general from both sexes. On the other hand some guys are so afraid of misreading a compliment or normal friendliness that they canβt tell when someone actually is flirting. I sort of think there need to be more voices out there meant to speak directly to men and masc people about social literacy that arenβt trying to turn them into hateful, violent, incel republicans.
hard agree, it's a tragedy that toxic masculinity has taken over that space. I'm not the target audience being nb but I have a lot of respect for the Speeed yt channel for doing exactly that.
I give my man compliments all the time. He calls me silly and pretends he doesn't care, but I think it is working. Have been running a semi-non stop compliment campaign since Covid where I tell him how beautiful his hair is in the hopes he will cut it less. It's been a good while since he last came home looking like a sheep after shearing. Summer is approaching, though, so I'm bracing myself for him getting the idea to visit the barber and have him mutilate those beautiful locks of his. It should be crime, honestly.
It's such a cruel thing that compliments from partners don't feel the same as compliments from strangers. My wife has been telling me parts of my body are attractive for agres, but I didn't really internalize it until I heard it from others as well.
It's the same phenomena as when your parents try to give you good advice but you will only listen to it if it comes from the mouths of "outsiders".
Example: my boyfriend tried to get me into Tool for ages and I was very indifferent to it. Then my closest colleague starts playing Tool at work and I'm like "omg this music is awesome" and I go home and tell my bf about this amazing new band I have gotten into and he just gets so offended like "I literally tried to get you into it for years wtf". We laugh about it sometimes.
I was told blue looks good on me by a girl.
10 years later, most of my shirts are blue.
I hope she wasn't colour blind π¬
You deserve a blowjob.
That's kept me floating for years.
I hope you receive it one day π
It's the thought that counts.
Is it though?
no.
It's the throat that counts
It's such a dichotomy. Women get catcalled every day and feel uncomfortable and harassed. Understandable. The average man gets catcalled a handful of times in his life and cherishes those moments almost as much as their children's births.
Doesn't even have to be catcalling; even a normal compliment is something we remember for a long time. I don't think I've been catcalled at all, though I'm not very attractive so I wouldn't expect to be.
Women drown in the ocean whereas men die of thirst in the desert.
This is obviously an overgeneralization, but it matches the experience of many.
Everytime the cashier flips the tablet over before a tip, they say a compliment. I always tip more than I usually do.
They got you good
Anon's tombstone:
"She really liked my voice."
I don't remember basically anyone from my secondary schoold other than my 4 close freinds and this one girl that randomly asked me for a hug one day, said I give really good hugs, then basically never spoke to me again.
In 1998, the young lady working the cash register at the taco bell near where I worked told me I have really pretty eyes. So I have that going for me, which is nice.
I (afab) intentionally give my male friends and coworkers lots of non sexual compliments, and itβs been a mixed bag for people I donβt know well. I genuinely love menβs business wear, so I frequently go for a comment about what theyβre wearing (think βI like your shirtβ or βthatβs a cool pattern,β not βthat shirt makes your eyes popβ or βyou look sexy in that shirtβ), and about a third of the time, they still seem to think Iβm coming on to them. Since I got married and wear my wedding ring, thatβs down to about a quarter.
One time a buddy and I were out drinking and on our way out he ran into a childhood friend. So while they were catching up I was just leaning against a table and listening to their conversation and people watching.
A pretty attractive woman came up to me, looked me dead in the eyes, and said "you'd be more attractive if you had some self-confidence", and then walked out of the bar.
I think about that every day. Because I have never in my life been told I need "more confidence" (actually, it's usually the opposite haha).
I've received two compliments from women out of the blue in my life. The first time was when a coworker told me i had a nice voice and should do voice acting for anime. That was 2006.
The second was another coworker said "at least you're cute" to some offhand joke i made. That was 2018.
At that rate, I expect another nice comment around 2032 or so.
I'm not saying anything about right or wrong or societies roles, but I don't even think it's hyperbole to say my wife has been complimented thousands of times more then I have in our lives. It's incredibly rare for me to get a compliment from a stranger, and even then it's usually from other guys saying they like some item I'm wearing. It really does feel fucking incredible when it happens because it's so insanely rare. And not to toot my own horn too much, but I'm not that bad looking, so I can't imagine what it's like for people with less fortune than I have in their appearance.
I've received a lot of compliments on my voice in life, Nicknames for it throughout school; i didn't have a period of voice cracking, literally woke up one day and my voice was different (scared the shit out of my parents that morning).
I hate my voice π
It's crazy how few times in an average man's life he gets real compliments on clothing or looks. It happens so rarely most of us can tell you about the times even when they're 20 years ago.
I did a lot of clubbing in the '90s. Once, a beautiful girl came up to me and said: "You're gorgeous" and then ran off. Thing is, though, I was in my early 30s at the time and she looked about 16. So, obviously, I didn't pursue her. But that's stuck with me for over 20 years. I can still hear it in my head.
I must be a heck of a lot more "attractive," than I think I am. I'm male, and 44 y/o. I get a random compliment from strangers about once every month or two.